A little bit of background for context
I kicked my ex out 5 years ago for cheating(he was a serial offender) previous to this- I chose to stay in the marriage to keep the 3 dcs stable in school knowing full well the tricks ex would get up to and how that would destabilise the children (youngest has just turned 17)
Several court hearings later I chose to settle. Our home was at risk and I was set to lose everything as ex had managed to hide several assets.
He got roughly 70:30 from the marital assets (officially)- has nothing to do with his kids (they refuse to see him as he was a pretty crap Disney dad) and I got awarded a small lump sum and moved out of the family home with my kids as part of the consent order - it was this or the house was repossessed and I’d get even less.
Because of his bad behaviour during the divorce process (he claimed he was unemployed and so paid nothing towards the mortgage without me knowing ) My credit score is fucked.I cannot get a mortgage and I now rent. He’s not paid me the lump sum as directed in the consent order. He’s stonewalling me for the best part of 8 weeks when I’ve asked about the money- then I received a court summons
He’s claiming that it’s ME that’s breached the consent order and that I stole thousands of pounds of items from the family home and stripped it of valuable assets and that I wilfully damaged it to the tune of £95k! I am aghast. I have no money for a solicitor and now am panicking as to how I will make the rent (I was relying on the lump sum)
Has anyone else had a similar experience ? My family are supportive but if I hear ‘he can’t do that!’ One more time I think I’ll cry - he seems to get away either way murder and even when challenged by the courts he has zero fear that he’ll be held accountable (he isn’t- he gets verbal warnings) meanwhile I’m abiding to everything expected of me at every hearing and I’ve ended up where I am.
Hand hold/ arse kicking/ collective wisdom ? Please help.