What should I do?

[Dragons101]

Hello
I'm looking for opinions / guidance.

In January, my first ever boyfriend got back in touch with me via a FB message.
He'd recently split with his wife for the second time.
Trying to cut a long story short, we've fell back into a relationship. Trouble is, he has 2 children from 2 different women AND an ex wife.
He's a good man. But I don't know if I can cope with his past. His children are lovely. He has a boy and a girl. I've always wanted a family of my own and to be married etc but I don't think I could he his 3rd baby mum and second wife, it doesn't sit well with me. I want to experience pregnancy and marriage with someone who hasn't done it before.
I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place as the saying goes. If I leave him, I would be leaving a good man who loves me for something I may never find. I'm 33 so most men will have children or been married before.
I just don't know what to do

Walk away. Maybe he is a good man but he is shit at relationships and wants a women to look after him.

I wouldn't, but hormones i.e. the need to procreate, can change your thinking about things.

There's lots of single men in their 30s but they tend to be career driven at this age if they haven't been married or had children, so they will want a partner who will support their career ambitions and support them/fit around them. Plus some men in their early 40s who for whatever reason didn't meet the right person.

Just my observations of dating.

@Dragons101 As I see it:

Pros
Your personalities are compatible
He’s a good guy who you have prior knowledge/proof of also
Hes an experienced father so may be a good support to you as a first time mom
SC sound nice are relatively young so likely more accepting of you so likely to be positive bind there and ready made step siblings/extended family for own DC
May be more motivated to make this relationship work and may have learnt more from past relationships how to perhaps work more as a team and give and take

Cons
He may try to overly advice since he’s done the whole newborn baby care already which you may find annoying (of course that depends on his personality)
He will be around less as likely will be times he needs to chauffeaur his other two kids around for after school/just spend general dad time with them
May be times family life is disturbed if unexpected issues arise and SC might have to stay overnight short notice
Houslehold income will be significantly reduced (if he’s average earner) for next decade or so as he’ll be paying CSM
Very likely you will be utilised as a ‘baby sitting’ resource for SC by either DP and possibly his ex if it’s known you’re ’always home’ , it won’t matter you’re caring for baby.

Well these are just a few of my thoughts. Of course this list isn’t exhaustive. Please also keep in mind it’s not meant to lead you to any particular decision either. I just thought it might be helpful to add to the mental ‘for and against’ list you may already have in your head to help you reach an informed decision. Good luck ♥️

If you don't walk away now, you'll find yourself as de facto carer and mum to his existing children, while you're trying to care for a new baby.

Run!