Covid on my birthday

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Feeling a bit sorry for myself - it’s my birthday today and I have been feeling a bit under the weather this week. I took a Covid test last night and it’s positive. I’m gutted. A family member is hosting a joint birthday BBQ for us today, as it was their birthday this weekend too. All my family are going but I obviously feel I can’t go now… What can I do to make today a bit special instead? I have two little ones but my husband is home to help with them

Why can’t you go?

I worry about giving it to other people. My mum is caring for elderly grandad so I wouldn’t want to give it to her (although she’s not actually that bothered about going and would probably be grateful for an excuse not to go 🤣)

Sorry you are poorly but happy birthday. So if you are feeling unwell would you be going anyway? Why take a test if you’ve been unwell all week, surely you’ll be over the worst infectious wise. Unless immunocompromised etc i’m amazed people still have tests tbh.

I work in the NHS free tests for staff stopped years ago as did being encouraged to test. Basically come to work! Our trust didn’t even offer the covid vaccine this year.

Why are you testing yourself ? We stopped doing that shite 5 years ago ?

you have a virus lots of people crack on with their lives with a virus

The OP isn't well.

I don’t feel too bad, just a bit of a swimmy head but I’ve had cold symptoms all week. I only took a test because I heard someone I spent time with last weekend has Covid and it clicked that that’s what I probably had

But anyone with half a brain and some common sense doesn't turn up to a party knowingly not feeling well and with Covid,same as they wouldn't with flu/heavy cold/ virus/ temperature.

Meh. I’d take a couple of paracetamol and crack on. I don’t know a single person in rl that tests for or even thinks of, Covid.

You’ve got a cold. If you feel too unwell to go out, stay home. Otherwise, don’t let it spoil your day.

Message the family
say you’re feeling a little under the weather with Covid
Say you will respect absolutely anyone who would rather you didn’t attend and to PM you if so

Me neither

only on mumsnet

Don’t have any Covid tests, wouldn’t occur to me to test letting alone for feeling “a little under the weather”

Interesting the consensus seems to be that it’s ok to go. I’ve been a SAHM (kids not yet school age) for the last few years so a bit out of the loop with what everyone is doing now!

So you’ve encountered LOADS of people in last week whilst you have had Covid.

I wouldn’t give this another thought but do let everyone know.

although I wouldn’t!

Huh?

I wouldn’t go if i was unwell. I don’t go anywhere if im unwell and full of it. No matter what i have. But there’s a difference between that and feeling ‘under the weather.’ Now you know it was covid it does leave the question on what you tell people.

As in, I don’t know what people are doing at work / school when they have Covid. Last time I was at work was during the times when you had to isolate! But I’m a bit out of the loop now admittedly

Friends? Family? Do none of them work?

and I fail to see the correlation with working and knowing what people are doing re Covid

Well I had assumed people weren’t going to work with Covid but I don’t know 🤷🏼‍♀️ not sure why it really matters. I thought it was the decent thing not to go and was asking for ideas of nice things to do instead…

It really depends on

firstly if you have had this over a week by then the infectiousness might not be that high - it’s usually worst the first fre days

after that there is no reason not to treat this like any other cold - if you know vulnerable people will be there ( or people who have a holiday booked next week who would be pissed to be poorly ) let them know and keep your distance and try to stay outside

I tend to avoid others when I am I’ll just out of basic respect

Really sorry you are unwell on your birthday. I hope you feel better soon. Hopefully, you can celebrate later in the week when you are able to enjoy it more.

I wouldn't appreciate it if I went to the party to find out you had covid or any other virus.

My unvaccinated neighbour caught Covid late last year. He has been unable to work full time since. He is awaiting an appointment with the Long Covid Clinic.

Covid still kills people.

You think they’d broadcast it?

Lots of people on Mumsnet will berate you for testing and tell you you should go out and socialise even when feeling rough.

positive test or not surely most normal people don’t in real life turn up to a BBQ feeling rough with a fever! Both myself and my daughter are immunocompromised and I’d be so upset if a family member visited knowing they were unwell.

I agree that it doesn’t matter if it’s Covid or not but if you feel unwell stay home for social events.

So you won’t just drop family a message to let them know you feeling a bit under the weather and have Covid and to drop you a pm if anyone would rather you didn’t attend and you would completely respect it?

I doubt anyone will pm you

Sorry also realised you were asking for nice things to do instead.

what about a takeaway from your favourite place?
or as you’ve got little ones a ‘fun’ carpet picnic then DH deals with them whilst you have a long bath with face mask etc

I wouldn't pm but I wouldn't go to the party.