Friend told me he's in love with me - I don't know what to do!

[Duvety]

My friend who I absolutely adore, told me today that he's in love with me..

I don't know what to do. I don't know how I feel. He's way too good for me. He literally can have any woman.he wants. I'm not good looking, I don't have a good job, I'm awkward. Is this a phase?.What on earth does he see in me?! If we do get together, on one hand it's complicated, however on the other hand we are good together and I adore him alot. It might work. Or it might not and I'll lose the friendship. What about my kids. Is it too soon, too fast?!

So so many things in my head. I'm spinning.

He was an utter sweetie and told me that I didn't need to say anything in that moment as it might feel like bit of a bombshell which it did. And if I didn't feel the same way he would be gutted but he would still love to continue the friendship. He knows me so well as this exactly what I needed but now I'm a mess as I don't know what on earth to do. I can't even sleep!

Okay

He likes you, you like him - go for it

The friendship is on the rocks now come what may.. if you like him, give it a fair shot. Could be the best thing that you do!

Do you feel the same?

I think that, before you do anything, you need to get all thoughts about him being too good for you out of your head. He’s fallen for you, not the other way around. And if he’s your friend, then he’s going to have fallen for the good bits, the bad bits and all the bits in between.

Now decide how you feel about him. Can you see yourself kissing him? Can you see yourself being intimate with him? If not, and the thought makes you feel really uncomfortable then it doesn’t matter how gorgeous he is; he’s not the one for you and he’s just going to have to get over it. If the thought doesn’t make you shudder in horror, then you need to spend some time together, just the two of you. Not on dates. That’s too much pressure. But just enjoying each other’s company and possibly looking at each other in a different light. Then go from there. Don’t tell the children anything; there’s nothing to tell them yet.

I’m a firm believer that friendship is a bloody good foundation for a relationship.

That would have taken a lot of courage for him to ask you.

A friendship can be a good basis for a relationship. My partner and I were friends for seven years before we got together. Many years on, we are still so happy together.