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Supervisor makes me feel uncomfortable

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Spaceyraid · 23/05/2025 15:17

I stated a new job a few months ago and I sometimes work alone with my supervisor. He seemed like a really nice guy at first, we got on and had a laugh. He’s said a few things now that has made me feel really uncomfortable. If it matters, I’m 27 and he’s late 40s/early 50s.

Yesterday for example, we were talking about holidays and he told me that when he was younger he went away and brought a girl back to his room. He said (his words) “I brought her back to the hotel, we had sex, I slipped it out and fell straight asleep, I think she was annoyed with me”

Then a couple of weeks ago he told me a friend of his who claimed to be straight had sex with another man but his friend didn’t think it was gay because he was “on top” He asked me what I thought. I mumbled something along the lines of “I don’t know only he’ll know I guess” to which he replied “well if it were me I wouldn’t be able to get hard”

There has been a few other things he’s said over the past few months too.

I know I should have said something by now and I’m annoyed with myself that I’ve put up with it but I suffer with anxiety which makes things difficult for me to be forward and straight up

I really liked my new job but now I’m not sure

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rubyslippers · 23/05/2025 15:21

Vile behaviour bordering on harrasment
totally inappropriate conversations for work
Do you have HR? Report each comment
if he starts again, tell him you find his conversation inappropriate and walk away

Dryshampoofordays · 23/05/2025 15:22

Avoid being alone with him and practice a few phrases to use if he says something inappropriate again.

Why would you say that to me?
don’t talk to me like that.
I’ve tried to brush off your inappropriate comments a few times now and it’s making me uncomfortable. Please stop.
piss off you pervert
etc

what a creep.

Dozer · 23/05/2025 15:25

Creepy - harassment.

Is there any way you can avoid being alone with him in anywhere other than public areas?

What type/size of organisation is it?

Spaceyraid · 23/05/2025 15:29

We have HR and it’s retail so I’m not always with him thankfully

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StMarie4me · 23/05/2025 15:31

Yes use a few of the phrases suggested by @Dryshampoofordaysand if he doesn’t stop report him. Keep a note of days/ times etc.

Dozer · 23/05/2025 15:39

OK, go to HR. Write down what he said with dates, places etc.

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