I've been with my partner for 12 long years, we have two kids (7yo and 3yo), I have deep regrets about staying with him and having kids as there were warning signs early on in the relationship.
Should have got out sooner but obviously things were fine 80% of the time.
Anyway now we're in this sticky situation where he owns the house outright but I pay all the bills, everything (I work full time on a decent enough wage), he earns a minimal wage with his very casual work so won't take on ANY financial responsibility. Zero.
I am sick of it but it is going to be a huge upheaval for me to somehow move out with the kids and rent a place in the current housing climate?! How do people do it?? We have no where else to go. They're better off staying here in our lovely house that he owns. But obviously I'm the main carer for them, my 3 year old especially needs me.
Plus how do I even bring up the conversation about wanting to separate? It's really terrifying. He knows our relationship is amounting to nothing right now but neither of us seem able to confront the situation. I'm scared of his reaction and he is clearly lazy and avoiding everything as usual.