Sensitive Topic - Abortion

[LellyLov]

Hi this is my first post , Ive just found out I'm pregnant we are safe but due to change in medication etc.. ive ended up pregnant I’m around 6 weeks and have booked in for an abortion next week , feeling slightly guilty but don’t think I could cope I have 2 DC who I adore but partners a Drinker I’ve been trying to help him for years but he won’t give it up just before I found out I was pregnant I was already in discussion about leaving him as it’s all got abit to much to cope with I just don’t want to bring another child into this situation and feel sad all the time I’m basically doing everything on my own as it is.

As hard as this decision is i think I would make the same choice if i were in your situation. If you are planning on leaving your partner, throwing a baby into the mix is going to make things a hell of a lot harder.

How old are your other 2 children? Are they his?

I too would make the same decision, there’s no reason to tie yourself to him or complicate your life further. It’s a very hard decision but maybe not as hard as raising another child in your circumstances.

i would do the samer don’t feel guilty. you are doing it for yourself, your existing children and the baby that’s not born

Yes there both his DC the oldest is 13 and starting to understand now that’s why I was ready to leave it’s like we’re walking on eggshells. When he’s not had a drink in the morning he’s brilliant will take the kids for their hair cuts and park etc.. but that’s only every now and again the youngest is 4 and loves him to bits 🤦🏽‍♀️

This is exactly what women’s reproductive rights are for. You are making a decision about what’s best for your existing children and yourself. It’s not selfish or wrong and you don’t need to feel guilty. Trust yourself.

I agree with others that I wouldn't go ahead with the pregnancy in this situation. I had an abortion last year for similar reasons re. Unstable partner as well us other various factors (albeit not as traumatic circumstances as yourself) and have no regrets.