Does anyone else turn into a super sensitive dick on their birthday?

[enfrance]

I don't know why I'm like this but I hate myself on birthday - I turn into a super snarky, annoying dick and I'm just not like this on any other day (I'm 100% sure of this otherwise I would be friendless and alone ;). It's not like I am especially bothered by presents and I have organised things for today... I don't know what gets into me

Anyway, today is my birthday and I promise to be nice from here on in... maybe ;(

Yup. Feel like a massive diva. Like a Hollywood actress not being pandered to correctly. Change the weather! Change my breakfast! Only beautiful people may look at me. Its all under the surface, I don't let it out.😂

@EscapeTheCastle - yes this pretty much sums up my mood today😂

I was this year.
It had only been 8 weeks since I lost my Mum suddenly (I’m pregnant too) and my DP didn’t get me a present or flowers etc.
Boy did everyone feel my wrath that day 😅

What do you think it stems from? Did you have crap birthdays as a child or was it the only time you felt taken notice of?

Happy birthday enfrance you diva. I am exactly the same. I have ultimate patience all year round but as soon as my birthday comes around I turn into a petulant child. I think it's because I do so much for my family that it really irks me when they don't really put as much effort in as I think I deserve and I'm not talking anything fancy here, just taking notice of what I might like to do that day or not like to do, or the fact that I get chocolates when I'm trying to watch my weight, because no one is really taking notice what is important to me.

Anyway I hope you have a lovely day and if you can't behave like an arse on your birthday when can you behave like one 🎂

In my case yes. No party or day out for me but it was the 70s and 80s so fun was strictly regulated and rationed. In our house at least! Other kids would have awesome discos which I got to go to.
Thank you for the therapy this morning.

I think that's it - I am really good at birthdays but DH isn't and never has been and I know this about him. He's great at many other things but this isn't one of them. DS was super sweet this morning and got up at 6.30 to make me a cup of tea before school - we had a lovely chat before he headed out. That was nice.

This is not even remotely the same thing. Your “partner” is a prick.

I honestly don't remember one birthday from my childhood.

Oh I'm sorry about your mum, hope you're starting to feel a bit better now x

My DH is terrible at birthdays. He often fails to arrange a present or get a cake for mine. )Before anyone jumps in I am not going to do my own cake, I do everyone else’s). As a consequence he normally gets ultra defensive on my birthday like everyone is judging him or something. It is like walking on eggshells. This makes us all prickly.

The fact that you can’t remember any childhood birthdays sounds like there is a history behind this behaviour.

My “partner”?
My “partner” was incredible through the whole process of losing my Mum, the post-mortem, we had two weeks to move all of her stuff out of her house (Council). He moved all appliances, furniture, her entire belongings, everything while still working night shifts and being there for me and my daughter. He was very much a partner when I needed him most. He didn’t miss a single appointment we went to.
He forgot to buy me a present, and I had a hormonal strop about it. So no, my partner isn’t a prick.

I like to not mention my birthday at all and see who remembers like a giant trap which inevitably goes wrong when people don't remember.

I am happy if the kids are happy.

So they say happy birthday to me, give me a cuddle and a card, I effectively go on normal chores strike (most noticeable I don't make dinner), H throws money at that problem and we order whatever takeaway the kids want and that's it basically.

Happy birthday!!!

My ex was the same. Generally a decent guy…in his birthday…nothing was enough

At least you’ve recognised it. That’s half the battle

hope your day went well!!

I hate my birthday, I’m single don’t have family or friends around me so it’s just another day for me, I usually have a little cry, then piss off to Costa & get my free coffee & come home. Every special birthday has been a disaster from being 18 with a child & zero friends (not my child’s fault btw) my 21st I fractured my ankle, my 30th I was pregnant & had awful morning sickness & my 40th I was in lockdown, so I dread to think what my 50th has in store for me! 🤣 I keep my birthday off social media as don’t want the embarrassment of 3 friends wishing me a happy birthday.

I am completely this person. I do not care about my birthday at all. I don’t want a fuss. Then my birthday comes round and I’m pissed that no one has made any effort!

Yes! I find it all really depressing. It's between Christmas and new year so a strange time anyway. We always try to plan something, otherwise I'd just sit at home feeling sorry for myself.

And you’re not kind ! PP was just saying ..So if you don’t have anything nice to say , I’m sure you know the rest of it …

Yep. I always feel really sad around my birthday and don’t want to celebrate it. It stems from my DM spoiling numerous birthdays and big life events in the past.

That is so me 😂

No, I fecking love my birthday.

ah ha, not just me then either.
i hide any cards that arrive in the post before anyone sees them and tips them off that it’s almost my. birthday.
i feel a massive twat for behaving this way but can’t stop myself!!
i want to feel super special in my bday but nobody makes that happen. i make an effort for the rest of my family. bunting and all sorts.

Ouch! I’m sorry to say, but personally I feel that VERY lame on DP’s end… unless you’d done some kind of reverse psychology thing where you’d categorically said you DON’T want anything… I hope he took it onboard!

God I’m a massive dick on my birthday!!
Check who posts on my fb, anyone that doesn’t say it when I’ve said it to them on their birthday, I’m fucking fuming!!
Mentally counting down as friends and family call me to wish me happy birthday, woe betide anyone who forgets to call!
I also expect tea and toast in bed when I wake up OR ELSE!!!
I am a very nice person otherwise, but on my birthday it’s all about MEEEEE!!!
😂