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hadenough500 · 18/05/2025 11:30

Hello.
mum gonna make this short with no back story details as I need advice

I have a 5 month old baby with current ish partner.
we don’t live together that’s a story for another day.

recently we’ve not got on at all. Really bad. Due to me being angry that he does t do his fair share and there’s been times he’s been very cruel to me.
i ended up blocking him because I can’t take his verbal abuse. He rang on no caller ID 30 times last night.
this morning he’s walked in my house and said good morning like all was ok?

I asked him to leave he wouldn’t.
he said it’s my son too.
his mum has flown in from America yesterday & wants to meet the baby today at his house.
I told him not today. Yes this probs isn’t nice but after how he’s been I’m not comfortable.

he tried to walk out the house with the baby. With no nappies. Bottles etc. no car seat.
I said hand me my son. He wouldn’t. I quickly locked the door and hid the key for my son’s safety. Not my own.

what do I do ? I’ve had enough. I feel so trapped. He said he’ll turn up at my house whenever he likes

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Toddlerteaplease · 18/05/2025 11:32

His mum meets the baby at your house. With you present.

AnneLovesGilbert · 18/05/2025 11:32

He’s acting insanely, call the police if he turns up and tries to harass you, threaten you or take your baby.

AnneLovesGilbert · 18/05/2025 11:33

Is he on the birth certificate? I hope not but it’s relevant.

hadenough500 · 18/05/2025 11:34

Yes he’s on it. X

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smallglassbottle · 18/05/2025 11:37

Go down the police route. He doesn't get to control you merely because he got you pregnant. The baby isn't a possession he has automatic rights to. He obviously has no clue and is using the baby to bully you.

If he wants contact with the baby, he'll have to apply to the court for a court order. Make a record of all harassment as proof of his behaviour. Take absolutely no crap and do not bow to his demands.

Google 'Grey Rock Method' and practice it.

MedievalNun · 18/05/2025 11:40

You need legal advice and fast.

But quick fixes: change your locks. A new Yale lock costs about £32 in B&Q (we just had to get a new one) and is easy to fit. That stops him walking in as he likes.

His mother only meets baby at yours, as PP have said.

If he tries to take baby against your wishes, ring the Police. Every single time. It creates a record if things go to court.

And first thing Monday, find a local Family Law solicitor. You should be able to get some time free - the Law Society website is the place to start. You need an order to stop him taking Baby out of the country at least.

And sending a big hug.

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