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'Stuck up'

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Daisyvodka · 17/05/2025 11:56

If you know someone you would describe as 'stuck up' what would make you say that?

Was reading a thread running about likeability and i've been thinking lately about how I've been described as stuck up in the past and how it's both times been by people who the sort of person who if you told them you were going to see a play would say 'fucking boring, why would you want to do that' or would roll their eyes at someone reading a non fiction book. Now to be clear, if you aren't interested in going to see plays or read non fiction, great! (There's a lot of plays and non fiction that would bore me to tears) it's just the attitude that comes with it - the sort of 'ewwwww, boring and weird' attitude. Instead of 'oh, not my thing at all, but hope you enjoy it!'
Interested to hear in what others think of as 'stuck up' behaviour. It was a very long time ago I got called it, when I was quite shy, and I have definitely seen other people described as 'stuck up' when i can't see how you'd know enough about the person to determine that, given how shy they are!
Interested in a discussion - from anyone whose been called stuck up and would agree/disagree with that assessment, anyone who finds others stuck up, different interpretations of the word etc.

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dephlogisticated · 17/05/2025 14:22

The number of folks I've met who are actually 'stuck up' is tiny, can't think of anyone off the top of my head.

The number of people who have used the phrase 'stuck up' to describe anyone who is interested in art or philosophy or good food or has a PhD or is just a bit shy or awkward is much bigger!

GingerPaste · 17/05/2025 14:29

lottiegarbanzo · 17/05/2025 13:03

Often used to describe shy people, who are misinterpreted as being superior and judgemental. Ironically showing a nasty tendency to judgement on the part of the user.

It’s a phrase only used by people who have a very rigid, limited idea of what is normal and appropriate for ‘people like them’ and who regard everyone outside their narrow norm, or seeking to escape it, with suspicion. A phrase of the no-aspiration social and economic underclass essentially.

Yes, I was referred to as stuck up, once (a long time ago).

I’m shy (but not obviously so) and my off-hand and avoidant behaviour were interpreted as this. I was in a different (higher up) department than the person making the comment, so I think that also played into their narrative.

Thirty plus years on, I’m still shy and lacking in confidence and I think I can probably still appear as unfriendly or ‘stuck up’.

UrbanMonstrosity · 17/05/2025 15:37

I’ve been called stuck up so many times but it’s always in the way “I thought you were stuck up when I first met you but you’re not”
It’s mainly because I don’t trust anyone when I first meet them and I’m quite guarded. I’ve been told that my eyes don’t give anything away.
That’s because I’m busy observing.

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