Do they think we're homophobic?

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Before I start, can I just say that I'm waiting impatiently for my son's test results and my life is full of boring jobs that occupy my body but not my mind so my brain is thinking about pointless stuff that doesn't even matter.

2 of the teachers at my dc school are in a same sex marriage. I know it's none of my business but one of the other parents told me that one of the teachers had introduced the other one as her wife and when I asked my ds he said all the students know. Just overthinking a bit worried that as we are Christians they think we are homophobic and that's why neither of them have said anything.

I am not remotely homophobic and I hate to think that they would think we don't approve of their marriage as we know both of them really well and like them both. They are both really good teachers to our dc.

I just hope that ds's test results come back soon because I keep worrying about stupid stuff like this and I'm sure the PMT isn't helping.

Why would either of them say anything? Do you think they’ve told the rest of the parents but not you?

Hope the test results are clear, btw.

Wow op .. you're massively overthinking this. Surely they wouldn't individually let every parent know their relationship status, so I'm sure there's no specific reason they haven't told you ...also I would never assume that someone is homophobic because they're Christian and I'm sure other people don't either.

I hope the test results are ok. Can you stick on the TV or radio and concentrate on that for a bit instead

I'm in a same-sex marriage with a colleague. They won't have thought about you at all. They might mention being married to a person they had only just met, or if it was relevant, but there is no reason to mention it to you as they both separately know you in a professional context.

Would you comment on a heterosexual couple of married teachers in the same school? Probably not, unless you ran into them in a social situation and were discussing families together (like to make small talk like, ´what does your husband do?´ or ´are you and your wife planning any nice holidays this summer.’) I don’t think a same sex couple of teachers would expect parents to be react or comment on it. As long as you don’t react or comment negatively it’s a total non-issue.

Bit of an odd post. Try an absorbing game while you wait instead.

I hope the test results are clear OP.

But that and the PMT do nothing to explain why you think

1. Why they'd feel the need to say anything to you personally.
2. Why they'd give a shit what you or anyone else thinks of their marriage?

Too strange.

I'm a Christian and this isn't something I worry about because I'm not homophobic and call it out within church settings/in conversations with other Christians when I see/hear it. It's their job to get to know you and give you the benefit of the doubt until you give them reason to think otherwise. Just as I'm sure they would like you to do for them. However I will gently say that I know many Christians who would say they are not homophobic while being homophobic so self reflection on how you're coming across to them is important without putting assumptions on them of what they may/ may not be thinking or feeling.

I also really hope your ds test results are the results you are hoping for.

Thank you. I know I'm massively overthinking. When I was at school if 2 teachers got married it would be in the newsletter sent out to the parents and there would have been a collection to purchase a wedding gift and a card to sign but I appreciate it is different now.

Going to put death in paradise on while I sort the washing to distract me.

I'm a lesbian and I wouldn't assume you were homophobic because of your religion! It probably wouldn't even cross my mind, to be honest.

I have to admit that I am often a little wary of some Christians, but only very intense evangelical Christians like you often see in the United States. That wariness doesn't mean I would assume they were homophobic right off the bat, but I would be prepared and probably more careful about saying anything. In the UK especially I think most Christians are pretty live-and-let-live; I even have an Anglican priest in my family who I get along with as well as anyone else!

I hope your son's test results come back soon and that the result is what you're hoping to hear ❤