How can I accept myself for how I look?

[Yacksparrow]

Does anyone have any tips on how I can just get over myself and accept that my face is my face and I can’t change it and to just get over it?!

I have always hated the way I look. I never have my photo taken, there are absolutely 0 photos of me and my fiancé around the house. We have been together 7 years and have about 5 pictures together. If I see a photo of myself it truly ruins my day. I know it sounds dramatic, and it is but I can’t help it, it’s my natural reaction. I get really hot and ashamed thinking people are seeing me looking like this. In reality, no one cares what I look like. But I feel such embarrassment that I left the house looking like I do. My friend has just sent some photos from her wedding and me and my friends are all laughing and having a good time and i can barely look at them. I have just skimmed my eyes over them because I just can’t come to terms with the fact that that’s me and it’s what I look like. I have my own wedding coming up and I have contemplated not having a photographer but we are obviouslt having one because it’s not just about me. But I know that I will hate every single photo and I don’t want to. I want to somehow overcome this by then. I want to look at my pictures and not care and just accept myself snd love my photos and see nothing but joy and love snd happiness. I want to be able to display them and enjoy looking at them.

It’s not all the time btw like when I look in the mirror I’m fine. I think I look fine. Which is why in photos it devastates me so much because I think… THATS what I looked like??? But it truly upsets me inside and then I get annoyed that it upsets me because who cares?!

Katie Holmes minus make up. She looks lovely. But she is plain. There's nothing wrong with being plain. But this is where we're brainwashed into accepting whatever "beautiful" means today. In 20 years it'll probably go full circle and it'll be back to peroxide perms and quirky lop sided smiles 😊

Madness. I'm objectively much fatter and I'm sure much uglier than you, and although I look shit in photos I still take them 🤷‍♀️ I'm sure you're much prettier than me 🤣

@SquashedMallow I mean come ooooon... who looks glamorous without makeup? Even young Elizabeth Taylor was probably plain without makeup

I don't think you understand what I'm trying to say.

Have no answers here but I understand. No mirrors in the house except one in the bathroom. Rarely take photos and am regretting this. Everyone else looks lovely. Sometimes when it coincides with mental health battles I feel repulsed by my image and don’t know why DH fancies me at all.

It is very sad we feel this way about ourselves. If a friend felt this way I’d be telling them how lovely they were and it’s all in their head.

I feel you OP. I hate having my photo taken. I have hardly any photos of me and my 2 children, which makes me really sad. But I just can’t help it.
I even hate my wedding photos because of my stupid ugly face.
I wish I was just plain. Inoffensive. Totally non-descript. But I am actively ugly.
I need to get over it because I don’t want to raise my children, especially my daughter, to feel that way.

Weirdly, I’ve always been able to get nice looking boyfriends. Never been single for very long. And now have a lovely handsome husband. But I’ve been told literally to my face by other people how ugly I am. So it’s quite confusing. I must have a cracking personality (not).

It's funny, there are people who look wonderful in photos but not in real life and vice versa
I think we forget that when we're just chatting etc, we're not staring as we do looking into a mirror. We laugh and smile etc. That's what makes people attractive in my opinion.

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