How much does your partner do around the house?

[Doughnutforme762829]

This includes DIY, cleaning and maintenance. Mine is not really interested and doesn't do any maintenance at all. It all falls to me to notice it and then deal with it. They say that I'm the one who likes the house looking nice so I should do it?

I also own the home, and I'd like to buy somewhere together, but they keep saying that a house move would be too stressful for them. We have an almost 3 yr old together and the house is tiny so a move would be good for all of us.

I do the garden. DH does all cooking and grocery shopping and most laundry. The cleaner does everuthing else, other than daily wipedowns, loading dishwasher etc.

He does the ironing and i love him for that alone😂. He rarely cooks from scratch or cleans toilets but does everything else

He does the ironing and i love him for that alone😂. He rarely cooks from scratch or cleans toilets but does everything else

@Doughnutforme762829 Apologies for adding a question in the middle of this post. Still trying to figure threads out.

DH does about 80-90% of everything related to cleaning, maintaining our house, cooking cleaning etc.
I work longer hours and take care of most of the family and child admin. I also work longer hours and have a much more mentally draining work life.

DH of 5 years is a brilliant dad. He does an exorbitant amount with our shared toddler and baby. He also buys them everything and deals with all Christmases and birthdays for those two.

I have three children from a previous marriage who are still at home. He takes them to hobbies, sacrifices Friday nights for example to pick them up an hour or so away from home. He does all school runs for me and cooks for all 7 of us every night. He also is the breadwinner of the family.

He’d like to, but I refuse to let him to housework
or laundry. Cooking he’s good at. Laundry he is not. Not to my standard anyway.

We started off pretty 50:50, but with my husband doing the lion’s share as he did all of the DIY and garden jobs too.

Over time, my husband now does all of the cooking, shopping and all of the laundry. He won’t let me near the dishwasher either. He jokes that I’ve moved onto a broadly project manager role and am largely ornamental.

🤷‍♀️ Works for us.

I was discussing this very issue with my partner yesterday.

I prepare food 1-2 times per day - 5-6 days per week, make the tea, wash up dishes 2-3 times per day 5-6 days per week (except for dinner dishes Fri, Sat and Sun), organise weekly food shop, clean the house, clean the bathrooms, iron my own clothes, and pay the larger part of the bills including weekly food shop and cover the holiday travel costs and travel insurance minus the spending money (when we go away)

They prepare dinner once/twice per week, do dinner dishes twice per week, do the family's laundry every week and iron only their own clothes, make the bed daily if your last in it, change the bed, to contribute to the bills (about a 3rd of the cost) including top up when a bit more needs to be paid. Do the garden when needed during the summer months, put out the bins.

I work full time, they work parttime and is studying part time

I've said they don't do enough. They have said they do more than most.

They have now agree to hoover, mop and dust downstairs.

It always annoys me when this is the fallback reason. Just because someone else owns the bricks and mortar doesn’t mean they shouldn’t pull their own weight with the cleaning. They add to the requirement for cleaning by living there. If they rented, they wouldn’t expect the landlord to be vacuuming for them and washing their smalls so why should the same be expected of the partner just because they own the house itself?

He doesn’t do any DIY or maintenance as he can’t, he does the majority of the cleaning bits that he can do.