How to let go of deep anger?

[JanisMoplin]

I am very angry and bitter about something I can't change. Nothing to do with my family or DH. Can't say what it's about, but I have been basically screwed over and a project I have been working towards for 5 plus years is down the drain. Much hard work, blood, sweat and tears. All gone.

How can I let go of the bitterness? Not helped by being menopausal.

Write letters to every person involved in this. Do it physically. Get it out on to paper. DO NOT send the letters to the people concerned. Burn them or shred them or bury them somewhere where no-one knows you put them - in the earth where they'll rot. The book said if the anger wells up again, write again. The book said that you can post the letter if you really must but don't put your name on the letter and don't put the person's name on the letter or the envelope and put a ludicrous address. e.g. Mr. Chat, 1765935 High Street Lane, East Manchester, SO 67 8ZZ

Yes, I did once post such a letter. I think this advice is in a book about depression but it was definitely about getting rid of anger in a safe way.

It might not work for you but I'm sure I'm not the only person who has done this.

Is it something someone’s done to you? Something you’ve done to yourself?

1. Tackle the feelings head on. PP's letter idea is good. Or therapy, or a journal, whatever suits you.

1. Concentrate on what you really value which you DO have, and do something with them/it in a different physical place. Go on a weekend camping with family/friends, or do a favourite hobby somewhere else, or go hiking/get deep into nature. Basically get out of your ordinary day to day grind with people or a thing you really really love. Get your head back into the absolute basics of life.

1. If the project left a 'void' in terms of time and energy, find something new to fill it. If you were stretched by it, enjoy the peace instead.