Is my alcoholic dad going to die?

[BeechBirch]

He's in hospital again - 3rd time this year. Bad staph infection- has had it for the best part of a year. Has been on super strength antibiotic but forgets to take them. He's about 6 ston wet through, has yellow eyes and skin and a load of kidney problems. His wife (not my mum) has pretty much given up on him and he won't help himself. If he gets out, hell just go home and get more drink.

I'm scared that he's now near the end. Has anyone had a loved one manage to turn it around ay this point?

They have to want to change

I can't see it. We've all offered to help, but he loves the booze more than us

I've never seen him look so poorly. I'm so worried he's not going to pull through this time. I don't really know how too help

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I'm really sorry you are going through this, addiction is so awful. I don't think it's that he loves the alcohol more than you, it just feels that way. Wishing you peace and strength.

Thank you.

I'm frightened to go to sleep tonight. I feel like things are inevitable

I’m so very sorry you’re going through this. I lost my husband to alcoholism two years ago. Is his wife sharing any medical updates with you? Do you have any support? I’d really recommend AlAnon for families of addicts. There’s really nothing you can do, it’s just a hideous rollercoaster.

I am sorry you are going through this OP. Alcohol addiction is horrific.

From your description OP, he won't recover if he doesn't change his lifestyle and stop drinking. As I am sure you know, his symptoms are those of someone who is starting to suffer due to a breakdown in kidney function and although reversible, there has to be the will to make those changes.

I just want to remind you that there is NOTHING you can do. This is not about how much he loves you or loves alcohol and you mustn't try to measure yourself against a scale of preference. Your dad is in the grip of an addiction and has obviously sruggled to break free. Whatever happens, get some therapy for yourself, or at least try Al Anon where you will find many children of alcoholics who will understand your pain, confusion, rage and distress.

Wishing you both well.

Hi op. I have known people pull through at end stage alcoholism, but some don’t. If he does pull through this time, he’ll need lots of support from alcohol services to stay sober. As others have said, it’ll be down to him.
Wishing you all the best and look after yourself in all this.

So sorry you're going through this. My dad has been an alcoholic for as long as I can remember. I walked away a few years ago because I couldn't watch it anymore. We tried everything, and no one would help him because he didn't want the help. I hear he has sorted himself out now, no idea how but there is hope for you. I hope your dad manages to turn it around too

Liver - not kidney. Sorry OP. Stupid mistake

Hi OP. I just wanted to offer solidarity. We lost our alcoholic family member in 2022 and it was very quick at the end after battling for years we knew it was coming but still shocked us with how sudden it was if that makes any sense?

That is not to say your dad won't pull through but he has to want to change. He's in the grip of addiction. We were so angry for a long time after our family member died. And also relived. And then guilty for feeling relieved.

Those feelings have calmed down now a bit of time has passed and we can see that addiction is an illness and just feel very sad for them but without the anger making things more complicated.

Hi, I will pray for you all. Your dad sounds really ill

Hi, I'm so sorry you're going through this.
My ex died about 4-5 weeks after turning yellow. She went from just about getting away with looking 'normal' to those not close to her; to looking deathly very very quickly.
Does he have ascites? Is he eating normally? Sleeping a lot?