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DNA

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Throwaway251 · 14/05/2025 16:22

Dd has recently managed to contact her father, she's 14. They have never seen each other . He wants a DNA which is fine. But he needs a copy of my passport . I don't mind doing it. But is there any risks in me sending him a copy?

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Throwaway251 · 15/05/2025 08:26

Itsnotfunnythough · 15/05/2025 08:20

Seriously? Why is no one asking why OP is allowing her 14 year old "daily chats" with a man who may or may not be her Dad?

OP why are you allowing this? Are you monitoring these chats? What support is in place to help her deal with this?

I know he's her father. And yes I'm in the room. She's spoken to adults at school etc.

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Throwaway251 · 15/05/2025 08:31

Ok thank you for the posts explaining to me why its risky. I can't do anything court type DNA or the type where you go to a clinic. Due to costs.

What I will do is search for another one that's not asking for ID. I agree it does not make any sense as to why they are asking for it.

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basketballcricketball · 15/05/2025 08:35

It sounds like you need to show ID when you consent to the testing of a child and he is therefore filling that out on behalf of you and uploading your ID.
I wouldn't be happy handing over my ID, regardless of there being nothing in that account he will now have some form of ID in your name (or a copy of) it's unlikely but could be used for unscrupulous reasons

InALonelyWorld · 15/05/2025 08:44

Throwaway251 · 15/05/2025 08:31

Ok thank you for the posts explaining to me why its risky. I can't do anything court type DNA or the type where you go to a clinic. Due to costs.

What I will do is search for another one that's not asking for ID. I agree it does not make any sense as to why they are asking for it.

According to Google, you do not need ID for a Boots peace of mind DNA test. It is only needed for the legal one. ID is only actually needed for verifying that the person the clinic is testing is the actual named person who should be being tested.

From google: Yes, you need ID for paternity tests purchased at Boots, but only for the legal versions. For "peace of mind" tests (not for legal purposes), ID is not required, according to DNA Testing Clinics. The legal tests require identification and sample collection at a clinic or by a sample collector, while the peace of mind tests allow for self-collection.

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Throwaway251 · 15/05/2025 08:50

InALonelyWorld · 15/05/2025 08:44

According to Google, you do not need ID for a Boots peace of mind DNA test. It is only needed for the legal one. ID is only actually needed for verifying that the person the clinic is testing is the actual named person who should be being tested.

From google: Yes, you need ID for paternity tests purchased at Boots, but only for the legal versions. For "peace of mind" tests (not for legal purposes), ID is not required, according to DNA Testing Clinics. The legal tests require identification and sample collection at a clinic or by a sample collector, while the peace of mind tests allow for self-collection.

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Thank you. Was that one the boots site. I want to do a screen shot.

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InALonelyWorld · 15/05/2025 09:08

Throwaway251 · 15/05/2025 08:50

Thank you. Was that one the boots site. I want to do a screen shot.

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No it was on the DNA Testing Clinics website. It states it is their tests/company that boots use. Dna testing website link

Also there is a how to use section on the boots website that states all 3 of you do your own samples, complete your own forms and post them to the lab Boots Link

Both links should provide clear evidence that he doesn't need anything from you at all other than your agreement to order the tests and arranging for how you and DD get parts to do.

ISO certification and DNA testing The laboratory report from a legal paternity test can be used as evidence for several situations, these include: Family court matters Changing or removing a father’s name on a birth certificate Disputed Wills Immigrati...

Do I need a legal paternity test?

Most of the time there is an easy answer, but there may be some situations when just a peace of mind paternity DNA test can be used.

https://www.dnatestingclinics.co.uk/do-i-need-a-legal-paternity-test/#:~:text=Furthermore%2C%20because%20there%20is%20no,DNA%20Paternity%20Test%20online%20shop.

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Throwaway251 · 15/05/2025 09:29

InALonelyWorld · 15/05/2025 09:08

No it was on the DNA Testing Clinics website. It states it is their tests/company that boots use. Dna testing website link

Also there is a how to use section on the boots website that states all 3 of you do your own samples, complete your own forms and post them to the lab Boots Link

Both links should provide clear evidence that he doesn't need anything from you at all other than your agreement to order the tests and arranging for how you and DD get parts to do.

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I'm so confused. Do do i Need to test as well?

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copi1ot · 15/05/2025 09:38

As someone who discovered her dad wasn't her dad in her 40s, and then met her biological dad, and then it all went to shit, I just want to send a massive, protective hug out to your DD.

InALonelyWorld · 15/05/2025 09:46

Throwaway251 · 15/05/2025 09:29

I'm so confused. Do do i Need to test as well?

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Yes, I think you do with the boots one as it says it includes 3 samples, 1 for mum, dad and child. It's mainly for accuracy, so they can match the numbers of the child to each parents DNA profile. It explains the process on the link, just above the how to use section.

I would imagine this is necessary for home tests so the company can't get complaints, etc for it being an inaccurate result if there is a strong match to mums DNA but not the suspected dad or whatever.

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Throwaway251 · 15/05/2025 09:48

copi1ot · 15/05/2025 09:38

As someone who discovered her dad wasn't her dad in her 40s, and then met her biological dad, and then it all went to shit, I just want to send a massive, protective hug out to your DD.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. It must have been a massive shock to you . And I'm sorry things did not work out. 💐

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Throwaway251 · 15/05/2025 09:50

InALonelyWorld · 15/05/2025 09:46

Yes, I think you do with the boots one as it says it includes 3 samples, 1 for mum, dad and child. It's mainly for accuracy, so they can match the numbers of the child to each parents DNA profile. It explains the process on the link, just above the how to use section.

I would imagine this is necessary for home tests so the company can't get complaints, etc for it being an inaccurate result if there is a strong match to mums DNA but not the suspected dad or whatever.

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Oh ok. I'm not sure he realises that.

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SapporoBaby · 15/05/2025 12:01

He could clip the image of your signature and paste it onto anything OP. He could use it to sign up to all sorts.

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Throwaway251 · 15/05/2025 12:15

SapporoBaby · 15/05/2025 12:01

He could clip the image of your signature and paste it onto anything OP. He could use it to sign up to all sorts.

I'm just going to tell him my id is not needed.

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