NC for this.
Work in a small team, one colleague, Amy, is annoying. She lacks many social skills, can't read a room and is quite bossy. I let this wash over me - like many of us I have young dc and a busy life, I give my all at work, but rarely think about it once I'm out the door. We're working at a fairly senior level. I suspect Amy has ASD qualities, she hasn't disclosed a diagnosis to me, but of course she wouldn't need to even if she had one.
One colleague is especially annoyed by Amy and every few months will call her out, there's absolutely no shouting / swearing / intimidating behaviour etc, but she will be quite forthcoming and challenge Amy on being bossy / cherry picking the juiciest work etc.
This has all come to a head and we're being asked to give statements to HR, is it bullying etc.
I think as adults in the workplace we need to be tolerant of each other's quirks and just get on with it. But equally some people do feel the need to get things off their chests to move on etc.
I'm sure I annoy people at work, but no one's ever called me on it, I'm not sure how I'd feel if they did.
Do you call people out at work for being annoying?