Today my husband I was really worried and anxious about something I have coming up, his response…just don’t worry about it …

[GrumpyCatHasFleas]

i love him
but struggle with his low emotial intelligence

j know I can talk to friends and family about things, but it would be nice to be able to get more from him

Mine does it too and although it is mildly irritating on balance it's a good thing as it helps me put things in perspective as I tend to worry about all sorts of random and often trivial things. He will listen properly if I have a serious concern about a situation. And sometimes I have to push a bit on that to make him see that there could be serious consequences of something and it is worth a bit of worry. But he just isn't a worrier and doesn't get it, even when he has got difficult things to deal with he is very good about compartmentalising them. Overall it's a good balance to have in a relationship IMO, if he was like me we'd be in a massive downward spiral all the time.

Without context we dont know if your husband was right or insensitive. I have had life long anxiety, its held me back in life and its only through medication and a lot of work from my mid-thirties that I was actually able to manage it and now I am only sometimes anxious and a little bit worried. Your dh does have a point. I sometimes tell myself to not worry about something and distract myself to prevent my mind worrying.

An operation coming up? A little but if worry is natural. Something like having to park in a busy carpark in a days time? No anxiety needed and I will work on not worrying about it.