2.5 year old bedtime help!

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Please help, not sure what to do. A few weeks ago, DD (2.5 years) decided to stop using nappies, toilet trained within a few days. We took the sides off of her bed so she can use a potty at night if needed (she’s also been dry overnight). But now at bedtime she wants to get up, have a wee, have water, wee again, etc. And then she wants me to stay in her bed and she’s a bit overtired, gets a bit wild or starts crying that she wants to sleep in my bed. It ends up taking 1.5 until I can leave, sometimes DH goes in and settles her.

what do I do? It used to be we’d read, have a cuddle, and I’d plop her in her bed. She’d sing to herself and go to sleep. Now it’s an hour or more of getting up and down, crying, etc. Is she frightened by her new bed? She may be overtired as we end up so much past her bedtime with all the wee and water, etc.

we’ve never done cry it out and I’m not interested in doing that. If I leave the room then she just comes out and stands in the hallway crying and yelling for mummy. I reckon she’s also overtired (should be asleep by 7 but with all of the procrastination we’re nearing 8p, if not 830, before she’s finally settled).

Have u got any sides on the bed as maybe
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this kind of thing will help

mine has a gap at the bottom for climbing in and out so can still get to the potty

u could block said gap with a cuddly bear called mr potty who can only be removed for going to the potty if you where still having problems

can she do bed time and if he does are there problems as sometimes it helps to swap over if u run into problems

It's only been a few weeks and it sounds like she toilet trained really successfully so I'm sure it's just a phase. She has undertaken a massive responsibility all by herself and probably feels a bit anxious around it all. Maybe say the wees are gone to sleep too and make a big thing of the last wee. Or count that we have 3 bedtime wees, one when we go upstairs one halfway and then last one when mummy goes away.

I also think she knows she shouldn't scream like that for you and you could tell her that she will have to wait. Leave her cry for 5 minutes then stretch it out a bit. I wouldn't dash up the stairs the moment she calls for you.

She should be allowed to the toilet in the night but no water (she should be hydrated enough earlier in the day, more water that she doesn’t need is more attention seeking than actual thirst and will make her go more), and no parent staying in the room after.
To the toilet, wee and back to bed.
Well done DD for getting it so quickly.

I’d taper off liquids throughout the day. Ideally having a last drink with dinner. Obviously keeping her hydrated is important but top load from the morning if possible. Use the loo before bedtime and then hope that’s it.

Also, could you put the sides on but give her a gap where she could get through? Just so you’re limiting the changes made. Give it time, big changes can take them a while to adjust. It’s likely things will look different in a month or so.

Thank you, sorry o haven’t made it clear, the climbing out of bed for a wee happens maybe four or five times, and mostly she doesn’t do a wee at all.