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Why the hell is it so hard to date

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 12/05/2025 00:27

Admittedly my standards are high but that’s because I’ve fallen victim to some horrible men. I’ve just found the dating scene so hard lately! I’m really not sure how anyone finds anyone.

I agreed to come out of my comfort zone and go to a singles party. It was awful. I kissed a guy who was half decent looking but the next thing I know two drinks later and he just wanted to get in my knickers and said “we should have got a hotel. I bet you’d love to have (insert disgusting comments) tonight”. So I told him to piss off and I took a taxi home. He walked me to my taxi and then said his friend desperately needed him so I said “if you don’t leave me alone I’m honestly going to start arguing with you so for your sake and mine. Just leave me alone and go and find your silly friend. If you can’t even have the decency to check a woman gets home safe. Then you’re not man enough for me” he rang me after asking if we could go for dinner and I blocked his calls.

I don’t know why this is so hard but I’ve lost hope. I know people will say “when you least expect it” or “don’t worry” but I do actually worry. I’m 29 and want children some day ans actually maybe just someone to hold me when I’m fed up of holding my shit together all day long.

Sorry for the rant but any words of wisdom are appreciated.

OP posts:
Flatwhiteforever · 12/05/2025 00:39

It's a numbers game. I went on A LOT of bad dates until I eventually met my husband on tinder! I was 29 too.

Breadandsticks · 12/05/2025 00:45

Ahh it sounds so horrible. I met my partner during covid as we were both on a covid response project. I had an awful awful ex who was my type but had the worst attitude and we just could t build a life together. I went on other dates and whilst the guys seemed nice it’s as if none of them were serious and you could just tell that they didn’t quite have a lot of respect for women.

I don’t know how one finds someone. I have spoken to a few friends approaching their 40s who have chosen to parent alone - and that just shows the low calibre of men.

But don’t give up, I also have a handful of friends who are meeting really nice guys - we are in our early 30s and none of our stories are the same. A mix of dating apps and social encounters. But you have to go with your gut and ditch the wronguns so that you are available for the right ones. And it sounds like you are doing that.

Plus you still have time

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