What’s a good comeback to you’re so over sensitive

[GrumpyCatHasFleas]

After having something rude said to you

if you object in anyway
you know your going to get don’t be so over sensitive
everytime

‘I am not over-sensitive. You are being rude.’

It’s not witty, it’s not a killer comeback that will shut the rudeness down and change future behaviour, and it doesn’t give you the brief joy of ‘why don’t you go fuck yourself.’

But it’s something to hang on to. It’s not you, it’s them.

You don't need a comeback. You're allowed to have your feelings.

Also it's technically them being over sensitive as they're reacting to a rational response to a rude comment.

Why do you see being sensitive a bad thing? (Said to the person who has said you are too sensitive).

A therapist told me to ask that and it certainly shuts people up!

Or you can say something like ‘I’d rather be sensitive than rude!’

Ohhhh that’s good

True !

Only thing I could come up with is and you’re crass and rude

kinda got baited

Trust me, you don’t need to be sensitive to find that comment rude!

Best look like you dont understand their comment and ask them to repeat it. Then after they have said the comment a second time, very very slowly repeat back what they said and leave the comment hanging, simply carry on with your day doing something elsewhere without them. Give them a wide birth.

Don’t blame me for your appalling behaviour.

It depends on who said it and their relationship to you. Is this a common phrase this person uses in communication with you?

Tell us a bit more.....

“I’m not over-sensitive, you’re just a dick”

'At least I have some kind if sense' said with an eyeroll

If it's a family member, even a partner saying this, and they minimise your reality regularly then come join us on the latest thread; ' May 2025 - we took you to stately homes'

It sounds like this is a regular communication pattern from this person. It's a common line used to minimise people who speak their truth, who ask for someone to be accountable for poor behaviour.

It's often actually narcissistic personality types who say; . ' you're too sensitive ' ' it's just a joke' ' you're over reacting '.

Let me tell you and anyone reading - no you are not any of those things, ever. I never use those phrases ever because there's no need. I'm accountable for my behaviour and would only want to know why someone felt hurt by my behaviour.

There are various techniques to employ in response but it depends on who this person is, their relationship to you and how much you have to communicate with them.

”You must say that a lot when people tell you you’re rude.”

Sounds like a gaslighting comment. I've been told this many times by narc family members and enablers.

Things I WISH I'd said at the time:

"I suppose it's easier to say that than to take accountability for how you treat me." (or "I suppose it's easier to say that than to simply apologize.")

"Just a piece of advice, but when someone tells you that you've hurt their feelings, the normal response is to apologize."

"I suppose it's easier to deflect blame than accept it."

"I didn't ask your opinion of me."

"At least I have feelings."

You are spot on. I've said the same thing.

I once said to my mum; ' if you told me something I did hurt you, the first thing I'd do is ask you how and why. I'd want to do what I could, not to hurt someone I love'.

I said it with such strength, confidence and no emotion. I now have to do this with my own teen I am very sad to say.

The Stately Homes thread is the place where we all talk about our experiences managing narc/ sociopathic gaslighters.

Just say “I am actually”

Oh goodness, yes, that old chestnut.

'You say that like it's a bad thing?' is my usual comment. I tend to follow up any bluster from them with a comment along the lines of 'It's not oversensitivity to react to someone's rudeness/lack of kindness/lack of thought'

Tends to make them stop in the tracks, if only for a moment.

"Yes, and I'm sensitive to boredom too, so if you don't mind..." Then just walk away. Can change boredom into anything you like (rudeness, narcissism, jelly headed skunk butts...whatever fits the moment 😅)

"Ok"
Take the wind out of their sails

“yes, I am”

“Well now you know”

”but you know that”

Some variation of the above.

fuck off ??

This is what I do. Repeat back the rude comment as a question. Watch them squirm.

I do this! Look puzzled and say ‘sorry? I’m not with you…’ if they repeat it, I say ‘No, you’ve lost me…say it again?’ Then I just look at them as if I’ve absolutely no idea what they are talking about….then walk.

Fcuk off you cnut - usually works for me.
Alternatively - saying sorry can you repeat that - and then asking them to repeat again and again, usually has the effect I am after.