Can I pass my driving test with a little one?

[Yellowmango]

Before I fell pregnant, I was learning how to drive and was 80% ready for my test. When the first trimester started I was so sick I could not even sit in a car let alone learn how to drive so I paused it. My baby is now 9 months old and I always thought I could start again once she turns one but I don't know how it's possible at the moment. I'm the only one who looks after her. She is so attached to me and is going through separation anxiety. She cries if I leave her with my mum. And has massive stranger danger. I doubt it will be drastically different in a couple months. Should I keep trying to get her used to my mum and being away from me for a couple hours or should I take my driving test once she is lot more older because it's not doable when she is young.

What about the baby’s dad? Is he your husband/ partner? If so he needs to be looking after her as well. A baby at that age will be fine for 1-2 hours and will soon get used to being left with their dad or grandparent.

Sorry if this sounds harsh but the baby needs to get used to it. Are you not going to be returning to work? Even if not, most women do around this time and you should be able to allow yourself time for lessons.

The longer she only knows the bubble of you and her, the worse it'll be.

My nephew had terrible separation issues but settled after about 15 minutes. Does she not settle at all?

How accessible are things for you currently, without being able to drive? Do you live close enough to walk everywhere, or have good public transport? If driving makes lots of places more accessible for you, that will benefit baby, being able to get out and about more. All of my children have had phases with separation anxiety, which I know is hard but it can last quite a while and your Mum is a safe trusted person to leave her with even if she does cry a bit.

Yeah do it now op, you're only leaving her for an hour with your mum x

I doubt it will be drastically different in a couple months

Actually, it could well be. They do have a clingy phase around now but are often over it in a few months.

9 months is the absolute worst for separation anxiety. It's because they've learnt they are a separate person to you and that you can leave them, but they haven't yet learnt that you will come back.

By 11-12months, this stage will have passed and she'll probably fine to be with your mum.

How can a 9 month old have 'massive stranger danger' for christ's sake?
It's wary of strangers, as we all are.
Don't start adding labels to kids before they've even begun to be in the world