My eldest DC has autism, but lives alone (he's 33).
He works part time, gets some ESA and PIP and pays for support workers.
His flat has metal boxes downstairs for mail, which have been broken into before. He asked if he could use our address for a letter from DVLA (he doesn't drive, it's just for ID), as he was worried about it getting stolen, I said fine, but as a C/O address.
He's now had letters from UC saying that his ESA is ending and he needs to claim UC, letters for PIP and bank cards.
DH was not happy that his bank mail is coming here, but I said it was just as C'O address, but his address with them is his actual address.
It now turns out that he's told the bank he lives here!!! Apparently he went in and changed it to our address.
I'm concerned that this is going to cause rows with DH (he doesn't know DS changed his address to ours, he thinks it's just a C/O address).
I don't know how it's going to work with UC as we claim a small bit to top up wages, plus I get PIP. I'm worried they will think he lives here.
I'm even more concerned about how he will claim UC. He would be entitled to rent payments, but not if he has our address.
He claims that he will put his actual address, but just say that post can't be delivered there, so use our address for correspondence. That is fine - but what about the fact that the bank account is at our address? They will be able to see the discrepancy in the addresses.
I'm also concerned that DH is getting really miffed about it. I understand that it won't affect our credit rating, but DH doesn't want his address to be ours with his banks.