Looking for a place to get it off my chest

[Littlemunchkinsmummy]

Not really sure what I’m looking for or why I’m posting as such.
We are in the process of moving back home, after just under a year abroad. We moved as my husband got a transfer abroad to a country he has always wanted to work in but also as we had some relationship issues and felt that removing ourselves from the situation at home may help.
To move I left a job in the government section something I had always wanted to do but in fairness couldn’t continue working in due to issues in the role. It was my own doing, and I resent myself for what happened.
I have a life long condition which has been playing up whilst away which we didn’t think would happen. It’s better managed at home.
We have two children and we have struggled with standard of education in the country abroad. We spend a lot of time going around the city , dropping kids / picking up, going work, shopping etc. A lot more time than at home.
My husband has applied for different role based at home, to facilitate the return. After 7 months I managed to get a role which I can’t continue naturally but I have been looking at home and the market is so dry and I don’t see anything I could do and there are many many candidates for a limited number of roles.
With the relationship issues it all just feels exacerbated and I’m starting to get a real sense of anxiety that I won’t find anything I want to do and will be jobless for a very long time.
As I mentioned in my post title I’m not really sure what I want from this post, I guess I just needed to get it out?
Thank you for reading.

Bless you, it all sounds very full on. Do you have family in this country who you can turn to for support?

Thank you for your reply 😊

We have both sets of parents back home but we generally tend to keep to ourselves. My mum is going through some health issues and both sides live in our home town still and we live a few hours away. We prefer to keep our distance and manage ourselves.
It’s the job side and relationship side that’s causing my anxiety. My husband is a very very good man and father but we are not romantically compatible anymore. I don’t want that kind of relationship which isn’t fair on him but we both agree we want to see the children everyday. I don’t really have a clear career path and at times I don’t think the generic roles in customer services are for me the roles I’d want to do are harder to get as I don’t have direct experience.
its all just a bit messy.

Hi OP, this sounds so tough, moving home from abroad is hard enough without the other stuff to think about so I feel for you.

I know from experience how quick a year goes when you move abroad so I'm not sure you’ll have had much time to focus on your relationship so it might be the same when you move home. He sounds like a decent man though so maybe focus on the other stuff first?

Re. jobs, could you apply for your previous role or something similar somewhere else? Obviously your experience will help but don’t underestimate you living abroad: that will make you stand out and will be a talking point that might be worth more than experience? Getting used to a new culture, working, settling your family there, dealing with challenges are all good transferable skills and shows an interest in doing something different.

Most jobs don’t want the full package to join they want someone to develop so don’t be put off applying for something if you don’t meet all the criteria. Could you maybe schedule some career sessions in preparation for coming back or discuss with a recruiter what you are looking for?

mostly though I’d say just take it one thing at a time. Prioritise getting home and job hunting and hopefully everything else will slot into place. Good luck!

Do you have any hobbies or interests? Anything groups you could join when you move back so you can widen your circle?