Have you ever had a crush on someone you knew would never happen?

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One in real life, not a crush on a celebrity. I’m currently experiencing this and it’s painful. I will get over this won’t I ?

Yes and a few times but the worse one that I’m still not over he was my manager and the spark was there and we’d have quiet chats, flirting back and forth. However, he had a partner and 2 very young kids at the time. The last time I saw him he had been to see England Rugby, he called and came round and we kissed.

this was in 2005, if he called me today and asked to see me, I would drop all plans and go.

i go on LinkedIn every now and then and look as his profile pic 😍

I was 14 and had a massive crush on a girl in the year above. We were in a school play together - I was in a very minor role and daydreamed about rescuing her from some sort of disaster in the way you do at that age!

from afar unfortunately. It’s a shame as I’d be quite happy to see him around.

This did make me laugh. Very true!

Just found out they are moving away

Yeah I’ve got a crush on the headteacher at the DC’s primary school. Hopefully no one has guessed!

If they’re moving away then it will get easier. Out of sight, out of mind.

The moving away is likely a blessing in the long run

Hi OP,

I think a good piece of advice for your situation is "The grass is greenest where you water it".

Yes it's normal to notice other people but try to reconnect with your partner. Try to remember what made you mad about them and plan some experiences that reconnect you whether that's a night at a comedy club or going ice skating.

You are putting your mental energy into someone else right now. Use that as fuel to put some mental energy into your relationship.

Doesn’t currently feel like a blessing, but I’m sure you’re all right. It’s going to be hard knowing I won’t just bump into him randomly anymore.

It’s probably for the best as in your replies you were sometimes describing being in love as sometimes as your crush 😬

I get crushes all the time. I’m married, have no desire to cheat or leave my husband, but I definitely have crushes, usually on people who are unobtainable even if I were single.

Just a bit of harmless fun, I’d never act on it.

Yes. I had a crush when I was 13 who I had to move away from and it broke my heart lol. I still think what if today, nearly 20 years on. I don’t want to be outing but he got with a girl in the same year not long after I left and they stayed together and got engaged.
…but they split up after he got another girl pregnant so clearly wasn’t a catch.

Still heartbroken?

I've had several. You can actively avoid them and try to distract yourself. Or it'll die a natural death anyway.

I think they're time limited. I can't recall having one that lasted more than a year.

Google limerence. It can last a lifetime.

I had one but it was not going to happen so I forgot about it.

He did not. Decades later he told me he had a crush on me back then.

Bought all the feelings back.

Best way I can suggest is to deal with by putting your feelings in a box.

It's also highly likely they aren't as perfect as you imagine - has been helpful to remind myself of this. I think that's the trouble - in the crush stage, that person is perfect, and as it never progresses they get crystallised as perfect in the mind. They aren't. No one is.

Totally know what you are going through OP! Wondering the same thing myself currently. Struggling with it to be fair 😬

in the crush stage, that person is perfect, and as it never progresses they get crystallised as perfect in the mind

yes, I definitely agree with this. I’m pretty sure I thought my dp was perfect when I first met him.

Im really not sure about limerance. The crush feels very intense but I know I need to keep my distance so wouldn’t stalk them or anything.