49F, single, one adult son who’s on the spectrum.
The last year has been nothing short of hell.
I was looking after my mum (staying with her) when her husband who already had dementia was diagnosed with cancer. I stayed on to help with all the house/garden duties/care of her husband.
Then early feb 24, my son got meningitis and was in hospital for 2 weeks after being misdiagnosed 3 times. After he was discharged he was back in with gallstones, again misdiagnosed 3 times until they scanned him. A couple of weeks later he was suffering with excruciating head pain so back in hospital he went. Another lumber was performed, this time they f’d it up. The results for meningitis were negative so he was released, but what they didn’t realise is that they had caused a spinal leak, which was just as bad as having meningitis, because he couldn’t stand up without his head feeling like it was crushed.. he was back in hospital for another 10 days.
After that he spiralled and had an attempt on his life. Not long after than he was wrongly dismissed at his work as someone put the blame on him instead of the one who did wrong take the blame. I was furious. He then spiralled further. Applying for job after job….everyday. He wouldn’t go on UC as he didn’t want to be relying on benefits, which I said was stupid… but he wouldn’t listen. Gradually his mental health got worse and worse, trying to cope with my son and managing my mums house and her dying husband.
September we sadly saw my mums husband pass away peacefully at home after a really short time. The day after my son then took an overdose. Back in hospital again. Then within days my beautiful dog was put to sleep. Utterly heartbroken.
We had the funeral, my son was still looking for work, but nothing was happening.
A Few weeks back he got meningitis again! Another 2 week stay in hospital.
once he got out, he had another attempt on his life.
FINALLY he got a job… however a few days ago he was contacted by ‘indeed’ as they had another ‘job’ he could do on the side to earn a bit more money…… IT WAS A SCAM! He had asked me for money, which I gave him..but of course the scammers took the lot, over a grand in all.
I am utterly exhausted. I am struggling myself but obviously can’t show it.
i finally moved back home now I know my mum is okay and happy again, but it’s been non stop sorting since I got back 3 weeks ago.
i don’t sleep due to peri hot flushes. I’ve been on HRT didn’t suit me at all… so basically every 20 mins through the night I am waking up drenched.
just wanted to get this all off my chest really….
I feel I am drowning in debt …. Over my head…and Just really tired.