Household chores that have somehow become yours...

[BigDahliaFan]

Cleaning out the dishwasher filter. DH would be hard pushed to know such a thing existed...

Yea, dishwasher filter and tumble dryer filter too.
DH , despite years of asking, still doesn’t rinse the worst off a curry/pasta sauce/greasy frying pan.

And what about chores that have just become your DH’s?

Don’t forget the washing machine filter!!! And dealing with the enormous mountain of clothes that need to be passed down between kids and then sold / given away when the time comes. And a million other things…

We do these things once a quarter. We have a list and then we ALL work until the things are done - small paint repairs, cleaning filters, washing machines, defrosting freezers etc. kids pitch in with the bits they can do, and when only the fiddly stuff is left they do normal cleaning stuff.

When Dh is away all of the chores are mine, when I’m away they are all his.
When we are both home then everything is both of ours. We don’t allocate chores.

DH is all bins, emptying, cleaning and putting out for collection day. He often does a Dustbin Dash at 5:30am because he forgot to put out!

Same as you OP, also changing bed linen.

Mine is niche but I am the person who sets things up. I am this person for all my extended family and a lot of my friends too I can programme your boiler, set up your new TV, sort out broadband, configure things, connect things and make it work. I get paid mainly in biscuits or wine

When my husband was alive, most chores were mine as he was a lazy bastard and thought it was "women's work". I left him eventually and he had to learn quickly to do things for himself. On a visit back with the kids, he moaned that the dishwasher wasn't cleaning things properly. He had no idea you had to keep it topped up with salt and rinse aid. He was only putting a tablet in. I'm not sure he'd ever found the filter either.

Nope, can't think of any. He didn't even take the bins out unprompted. Guess that's why he's a stbxh.

Wait, the dishwasher has a filter?! 😵

Well if I've done nothing else today...at least one person has learnt something.

DH clears out the big filter underneath the tumble dryer. Thats become his thing.

Most other stuff shared. Except thinking about what we sre going to have for tea. Thats 90% me...

Loading the dishwasher and hanging the laundry. Not that my bloke doesn't happily do these chores but he does them wrong so I always have to re-do them (in this case it's not him being incompetent so I don't ask him again, I never ask him to do these jobs but he wants to be helpful so does them before I get home from work)

Vacuuming and mopping has become his though so I'm pretty happy with the current state of affairs.

All of them 😩

You are worth your weight in gold to the technophobes!
This is my DH's role in our family. We can always guess when a request is coming to (have a quick look at...) sort or fix something. Lately it's been vacuum cleaners and ring doorbells. 😁

Mine: picking up dog poo, all mental load , kids clothes and sorting/ selling / donating , thinking of and buying food, cooking , all washing up that can't be dish washed, rewashing items he has put in, with crustiness still in there , shower screen scrubbing

Him: tumble drier filter and same for washer , grout cleaning , hoovering , mopping , wiping down , laundry but not to my standards , sports kit organising

Yes..undoubtedly - but the 90% him things isn't stuff that happens day in and day out to keep us alive...

Mine are putting away our laundry (the kids do their own), cleaning the shower, walking the dog and admin/school stuff.

DH's are cooking, vacuuming and cleaning the bathroom.

@Foodfinger no, it was meant not as a DH bashing thread - more of how somehow things become 'your' things to do.

DH has never noticed dust. When I first met him, I asked him how often he dusted and he said when he noticed it (not very often). I can't complain as I was aware of this before we married.

He hardly ever wipes the cooker hob.

Two things I solely do are wiping down kitchen units and woodwork, as well as re-pressurising the boiler. Oh, and I discovered recently we'd been here ten years and he didn't know where the stop tap was and which way to turn.

He seems to have what I called an obsession with painting the shed (never touches fences) and moss on the patio, so that's become his thing as he wants to do it far too regularly for my liking.