I’ve always been someone who prefers fewer very good friends rather than lots and lots of acquaintances. I’m def an introvert in lots of ways, but people may not realise.
I’ve got some very good friends from school / uni who I am in regular contact with and see a few times a year and are definitely who I would turn to in need.
however I’ve been living in our house for 6 years now. But that covered Covid, being pregnant and having a baby (in addition to 2 other kids so lots of school runs etc). I have met people I like, have been to dinners, drinks, even group weekends away. But the friendships have all been fairly shallow and although I really count a couple as proper friends, I don’t have a “group”. I did almost get in with one clique but I found it far too cliquey for me, and they expected you to go for dinner / drinks every week and it was just too intense for me, and one of them was drunkenly quite mean to me (she apologised after) but I couldn’t quite get past that and drifted after.
if I moved tomorrow I don’t think these friendships would endure but I would relace tho them with new local friends.
life can go by quite easily with these friendships but I’m worried I’m not putting real solid roots down and I’m wondering whether this just isn’t the right place for me and I haven’t met my people, and wondering about moving (mostly for schools but if my friendships were more solid it would be more of a draw to stay).
do you have a group of local women you see regularly? Are they your best friends? Would you remain friends if you moved?
im overthinking everything.