Any females living / lived with male roommates?

[sunshineandstarsgirl]

How is/was your experience? Is it safe? I saw a job in a village. Travelling to and fro is not a long-term option. There aren't that many houses in the village in Spareroom website. There is a town next to the village where I could live. But, the houses in the town I looked at in Spareroom have atleast 1 male living in it. There are only about 6 houses in Spareroom website in this town.
So, my question is as a female to live with men who are strangers- is it safe?
The job I am looking at is an entry level HR role which is hard to come by. Hence, asking here for you lovely people's opinions/advice/experiences.

I live in a house share with my dp and 2 other couples nothing unsafe but they are inconsiderate

I think as long as they're clean and house trained, men are more easygoing and better to get along with. I think though since you're asking if it's safe you might be better to just sticking with females, if you're going to be uneasy about it. Do you have any male friends?

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I found living with males easier than with females.

Although they used to laugh at me when I got PMT and started scrubbing the kitchen (I'm sure I'm not the only one who did that).

One thing I did ask was that we had a cleaner for communal areas.

I am a single woman in my 40s living alone and have a male lodger who lives with me four nights a week. It's fine and I've never felt unsafe. You just have to visit and see what sort of vibe you get.

Twice after university. They were all great, and no better or worse at cleaning than the women.

I did and married one

I lived in a house share ther was 3 men and me I had no issues at all. I meet my now husband in my last house share.

Try Halifax or Huddersfield. Likely to have more going on too.

Once, we have been married for 25 years.

So, my question is as a female to live with men who are strangers- is it safe?

As a female? Do you mean woman?

Using ‘female’ in this context is what incels
do. Horrible.

I shared a house with three men for a couple of years in the 1980s. It was fine and I became very good friends with two of them.

I rather liked it. They were so keen to show that they were not expecting me to do all the cleaning etc that I probably did rather less than my fair share. My worst house-mate was female.

More recently, my daughter has shared a house with men. Again there were no particular issues. She found some housemates easier to live with than others, but that’s to be expected!

No. I have never and wouldn't live in a mixed house shares, nor would I ever date a man who lived in one (male only is fine, just not mixed). In my experience, when I lived in Manchester and most of my peers lived I mixed shares, they almost always ended up shagging each other, or the men were hoping to shag the female housemates. I dated a guy who lived in a mixed share once- he was very handsome and talented and ALL of the females were trying to shag him. To his credit he never did (that I know of) but it was a nightmare and caused me a lot of anxiety. I also don't like men having large mixed sex groups of friends for a similar reason- loads of drama and attractions between them.

I understand your anxiety about mixed-sex friendship groups, but I've lived in several mixed-sex houseshares and none of the men were shagging the women, as far as I know (although one set of housemates subsequently started dating, and eventually married). Sleeping with housemates sounds like a recipe for disaster: the awkwardness if one partner has feelings for the other, while the uncommitted partner sees it as casual sex and brings home a new partner a few days later.

Anyway, all my male housemates were lovely and I found that mixed sex flatshares were more relaxed and fun than single-sex ones.

Awful living with men

Never live with men. Keep records of situations re roommates where it was unavoidable and the horror it caused.

it is really fucked up that women around the world have to live with men we do not know nor want to live with. A few stories from random ladies about how it went well is zero justificacation bc believe me it is not safe emotionally and often otherwise

the f

If you must share a flat with men, pray they are not creeps & do not tell any co-worker etc male or female bc it will lead to a shitstorm of judgment and harrasmment and rumor will have it you are all sleeping together and you are a prostitute

Yes, but in the context of sport when younger. We all knew each other before.

Had a very disturbing incident with a male colleague while working away. Nothing physically happened, but he tried to get into my room.

No, they say "females" not "as a female". It's different.

Why do they have to?

She literally wrote “as a female”.

Yes and the problematic language from incels and the like typically omits the "a". We are females. Or at least I am. Her phrasing wasn't the problematic kind because she said "as a female". If she said "do other females feel this way?", that would be that misogynistic style of language.

Are you in the UK @womendeserveprivacy? Because it's quite common in this country for men and women to share flats and houses, and has been for decades. Nobody except you is judging or imagining that the female housemates are prostitutes!