Rudeness

[RK1995]

Reached out to a couple of employees who I thought I got on well with to congratulate them on a big achievement. Understand it was on a public holiday but at least acknowledge the message, as I know you’ve read it!

I wouldn't like to receive any work related texts on a non-working days, even if it to congratulate

Was it a work related achievement?

No it was running the marathon, which they both told me about last week

To be fair if they had just run a marathon they've probably received a gazillion messages and are probably struggling to reply to them all

That’s not rude. They have other things on their minds

Rudeness is becoming more prevalent

Have you seen them in work today

I would imagine they are rather tired after that and probably busy celebrating with friends/ family. If they don't acknowledge your message next time you see them, then that would be a bit rude, but I think you are drawing that conclusion too early now.

I’d give them a chance. This sounds like your message was about you not them…

A reply would be nice but not essential. I wouldn’t call it rude at this stwge

adults getting upset about people reading messages and not responding is pretty tragic.

read receipts shouldn’t be a thing tbh.

Give over. What do you want from them, a medal? It’s a message. Took you 2 seconds to write and probably as much thought. Do you really care?

Working at a different site today. Don’t like confrontation so I wouldn’t mention it directly to them

I personally don’t really bother (for the most part) communicating with work colleagues on anything other than work related issues for this very reason….not worth the hassle of having to deal with scenarios similar to this

I’m sure they’ll catch up with messages in time, not everyone replies straightaway.

On the face of it, that doesn’t sound rude. It was a bank holiday and they could well have been out or just other things on their minds. I wouldn’t have given it a second thought!

Get over yourself.

I expect they’ll have received loads of messages saying the same thing and it’s not really a message which requires an instant response. Cut them some slack, it’s not as if you organised flowers and a celebratory party, they’ll acknowledge it in time or when you next see them in person.

Did you sponsor them? If you didn't, YABU.

I felt absolutely physically broken but emotionally elated after doing my marathons. Give them a chance to heal and come back to earth. I wouldn't take it personally. It was thoughtful of you to send a congratulatory message. I'm sure they appreciated it. Just put it out of your mind OP, it's not a big deal and anyway they might still get back to you.

Points noted. Thank you.

I wouldn't be on my phone after a marathon

Personally I think yeah they could have just even ‘hearted’ your congrats text like takes a millisecond to acknowledge someone who’s made the effort to applaud them for a challenge they themselves had told you about.

Well you can cheer yourself up with the knowledge that some of us have it worse as two years ago I joined a new team and as we travel a bit I asked my direct manager for his work number with a plan to create a contact group for travel stuff in case one of us was running late for an event for contingency plans with stakeholders etc if needed. Well to my horror, one of the managers started using this WhatsApp group to send memes or photos of his day trips. Other people who in work times I don’t have much to do with start sharing engagement photos etc and you feel forced to say congrats when inside I don’t care as don’t really know them! What’s worse though is that receiving these messages at weekends or when I’m on leave just reminds me of work! I can’t not have it on either as we all work in projects and that’s the way we message any urgent stuff we’d all need to know! And it’s same cliquey nonsense if a senior posts something everyone rushes to comment and like but if a junior like me does (to not appear anti social) no one cares 😅

I hate WhatsApp groups, there is so much passive aggressive behaviour in them at times

Why on earth would there be confrontation? You surely aren't planning to tell them off for not replying?? Because that would be rude.

Was this on a group chat or individual? It seems like you’re feeling a bit embarrassed are that’s turned into being angry with them, but messaging over a bank holiday in itself may not get a reply never mind from a work colleague.

You were rude. Stop it

I find things like that very rude but people are becoming ruder and more ungrateful in recent years. I always respond to kind messages and thank you for gifts etc.