Guilt after DD asked for us to have a baby😩

[Iamwearingmyglasses]

DD just came to me and asked me if I’ll be having another real baby. (She is 5, her brother is 3) I said no, we just have you two. She got a bit upset and said she really wanted me to have another baby.

I was absolutely dead set on not having another baby after DS, I had two c sections and the risks involved with another one just don’t interest me at all. But recently I’ve been having these pangs of envy of my friends pregnancy’s and new baby’s coming along. I was one of the first of my friends to have my children so now I feel a bit out of the mix!

I think.. I think I’m broody. I hope not. I’m trying not to be. But I think I am. I daren’t tell DH as he chose to have a vasectomy instead of me having my tubes removed and he ended up with complications so it wasn’t a great time for him 😂

How do I stop the niggling broodiness/not finished-ness?! It’s in the pit of my stomach and DD has just brought it a bit higher up😭

Dd asked us for a baby sister when she was 5. A few years later after seeing her cousins interact, she thanked us profusely for not making her live with a sibling. She has repeated that sentiment over the years.

It’s a phase. 5-6 year olds are in playing house age and like the idea of a baby. They don’t really understand the change in family dynamics.

Making such a drastic life decision should not be based on the words of a 5 year old to be honest.

If you want another baby, have another. But not to please a small child.

No sane person would have a 3rd child or a second child even at the request of their current children.

I would feel the same if my dd asked me, as its us and I'm one and done

But I just think its a phase, she'll get over it xx

Had your child not tugged at your heart strings you probably wouldn't be thinking this way. It's a bit late now given your DH got the snip.
Be a willing sitter to your friends babies for the broodiness?