I'm really annoyed with my friend but DH thinks I am overreacting, just wondered what others think.
For context, at the beginning of April I came down with the flu, proper full on flu which kept me in bed for best part of a week and then a further week of needing a nap every afternoon because I felt exhausted. Still had a cough the third week but was feeling a bit brighter.
It was a crap few weeks as I help care for my elderly mother who suffers from various health issues including Alzheimer's and cancer so is clinically vulnerable. Obviously, I had to keep away, my sister took time off work to help and we upped her carers visits.
Our friends are fully aware of all the above.
The week before last these friends invited dh and I over for dinner. We arrived on the Saturday evening to find the husband has a rotten cold, he spent the evening coughing and blowing his nose all the time, his voice was hoarse and he didn't look great. In all honesty, if his wife hadn't spend all day preparing a lovely meal I would have made my excuses and left.
I know that I can not put myself in a bubble and we are exposed to viruses all the time but I am really pissed off with our friends, they know my circumstances and knew I was getting over the flu. I asked the husband when had he came down with this cold and he said a day or two before, he had been messaging me the day before so had time to pre-warn us. I personally feel he could have given us a heads up and I would have postponed it to another time.
Needless to say because of my flu battered immune system I have come down with this rotten cold and feel back to square one. Five days in and I can't breathe well and am feeling knackered and shitty. To make matters worse it has meant that I haven't been able to see my parents again this week.
Would this piss you off in my situation? Surely it's simple manners to let guests know if you are unwell. Why are people so oblivious to other people's circumstances?