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We need a new word for between middle aged and old

127 replies

PersonalBest · 05/05/2025 09:20

I'm 60, obviously not middle aged. I don't feel old though. My mother is old, she's 91. Geriatrics has come up with the term "old old" (I think!) because people are living so long. But I think there's a gap now, for those of us who are in-between old and middle aged. Am I young old? Pre old? Post middle aged? Any ideas? A lot of people will say I'm just old, get on with it. Well, I'm not accepting it sorry!

OP posts:
NovemberMorn · 05/05/2025 14:14

Growsomeballswoman · 05/05/2025 14:08

Mold😂

I prefer Gold.😁

RaraRachael · 05/05/2025 14:14

Lavenderflower · 05/05/2025 14:04

I am almost so 40 I would classify myself as middle age at technically at the halfway point or at least near it. I would classify anyone under 35 as young and anything over 50 as old.

I'm ancient at 62 in that case

TwentyKittens · 05/05/2025 14:18

Dartmoorcheffy · 05/05/2025 12:41

Im 56. I consider myself middle aged. I'm hardly one foot in the grave. I run a business, I go to festivals and gigs. I have a busy life and still feel the same as I did in my 30s. Look at women like Zoe ball and davina mccall. They are both in their prime as are many other women approaching 60.

Davina isn't middle aged though, she's [unknown word]. That's not a value judgement. I think she's amazing.

But if she's middle aged we're looking at 120 as typical death age.

Lavenderflower · 05/05/2025 14:42

RaraRachael · 05/05/2025 14:14

I'm ancient at 62 in that case

62 is a good age. You are old enough not to care about what the world thinks but young enough to still enough to enjoy. I am really enjoying seeing my mum age this stage.

Neurodiversitydoctor · 05/05/2025 16:05

Ifailed · 05/05/2025 13:07

so, 35-70 range gives a median of 50, hence a life-expectancy of 100?

I think life expectancy for baby girls born today is 100, I certainly hope to make it.

mathanxiety · 05/05/2025 16:45

I think 'fabulous' fits the bill.

Though Busy Boomer might do too.

Most (women especially) around 55 to 65 are working, often taking care of parents, often seeing children through exams and the university years and independent adulthood, some have grandchildren and are very active in their lives. Many are also trying to stay as fit as they can so they'll be able to enjoy their later years.

Andarna · 05/05/2025 16:46

Triquart?

PersonalBest · 05/05/2025 17:12

I like molderly

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Sgtmajormummy · 05/05/2025 17:21

I’m 58 next birthday. I’d classify myself as:
Long in the tooth.
Been around the block a few times.
Lots of miles on the clock.
Or, as Trinny would say, further down the journey of life.

Aren’t we known as Generation X?

CarpetKnees · 05/05/2025 17:40

Isn't "middle aged" always the age your parents are ? A sort of moveable feast.

I realise this doesn't apply to lots of us, now the retirement age is 67, but I find the term "the young retired" quite useful. It sort of covers 60 to about 80, which seems to be the time a lot of folk begin to "suffer" more with aging. The volunteering hours given by this age group across the country are phenomenal.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 05/05/2025 17:41

I think of myself as middle aged, maybe older or mature. Quite like ‘third age’, but that may only apply if one has retired, early retired years are a kind of third part of your life.

I think that every one I know in their 60s has had some health niggle or other in the last few years though, even if inside they still feel as if they were 21.

ruethewhirl · 05/05/2025 18:13

NovemberMorn · 05/05/2025 14:14

I prefer Gold.😁

Always believe in your soul! (sorry 😄)

insomniaclife · 05/05/2025 18:15

Elderly?

Nsky62 · 05/05/2025 18:15

PersonalBest · 05/05/2025 12:26

I'm sorry, that must be very difficult. I do appreciate how lucky I am to have good health.

It is difficult, more so with it changing your mind, thought processes and the like, the physical less so.
Eight years in, it’s not taken my humour yet!
Enjoy your health none of us know what’s round the corner

Nsky62 · 05/05/2025 18:16

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 05/05/2025 17:41

I think of myself as middle aged, maybe older or mature. Quite like ‘third age’, but that may only apply if one has retired, early retired years are a kind of third part of your life.

I think that every one I know in their 60s has had some health niggle or other in the last few years though, even if inside they still feel as if they were 21.

Probably true

PickAChew · 05/05/2025 18:20

Gettingonabit? 😂

Middle age makes more sense if it is seen relative to adult life, rather than whole life, really.

I do find it amusing when there is a sad face story about something "terrible" happening to a grandmother and it turns out the grandmother is 52 and not the old lady the writer seems to be talking about.

GreenFressia · 05/05/2025 18:21

Queenagers, apparently. According to a Davina McCall podcast.

Storynanny1 · 05/05/2025 18:21

i’m a young at heart but creaky kneed 68 year old. I’ve got middle aged children in their 40’s so I can’t really call myself the same as them! I’m an older adult, although one of my granddaughters always says, “storynaany, you’re not old”
One of the 7 year olds I do volunteer reading with looked at me with a puzzled look on his face a couple of weeks ago and said in a questioning voice of disbelief “ why are you SO OLD?”

Nsky62 · 05/05/2025 18:25

Lavenderflower · 05/05/2025 14:42

62 is a good age. You are old enough not to care about what the world thinks but young enough to still enough to enjoy. I am really enjoying seeing my mum age this stage.

Def not, nearly 63, 8 years in with Parkinson’s ( defined mid stage), life has become a lot harder especially in the last 18 months.
Lots are like me, I walk awkwardly, tremor, finding travel difficult , the joys not, and struggle with much more.
Luckily early retirement at 59, my mum was in far better health at my age, no other half here, just cat and I

TwentyKittens · 05/05/2025 18:37

mathanxiety · 05/05/2025 16:45

I think 'fabulous' fits the bill.

Though Busy Boomer might do too.

Most (women especially) around 55 to 65 are working, often taking care of parents, often seeing children through exams and the university years and independent adulthood, some have grandchildren and are very active in their lives. Many are also trying to stay as fit as they can so they'll be able to enjoy their later years.

55 to 60 is not Boomer, whether they're busy or not.

RaraRachael · 05/05/2025 20:07

insomniaclife · 05/05/2025 18:15

Elderly?

Thanks for that 🙄.

I certainly don't consider myself elderly at 62. That's how I'd describe my 87 yo MiL

Philandbill · 05/05/2025 20:13

ruethewhirl · 05/05/2025 18:13

Always believe in your soul! (sorry 😄)

Well that shows your age @ruethewhirl 😂
Perhaps we should be called New Romantics?

queenofthesuburbs · 05/05/2025 21:30

Philandbill · 05/05/2025 20:13

Well that shows your age @ruethewhirl 😂
Perhaps we should be called New Romantics?

@Philandbill So True

PurpleSky300 · 05/05/2025 22:22

Attitudes to age have changed over time and these categories aren't really helpful. I would consider middle age to span anything from 45-65 and I would consider 'elderly' to be 80+ . No idea what term to use for the interval period!

anonymous98 · 05/05/2025 22:37

IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta · 05/05/2025 10:10

If it's not internalised ageism, why do so many people cheerfully refer to themselves as young, even when they're 35?!

35 is relatively young