Real time sleep help with my dc please

[Sleephelpneeded]

3 and 6 year old. Single parent and putting them to bed together wasn’t working.

started splitting it. Youngest slept well the first few nights but now now not laying down. She’s had her routine - story, cuddles etc

6 year old is downstairs waiting for me to put her to bed.

3 year old won’t lay down. She’s chatting and reading books to herself.

I’m knackered and tearful. I’ve been strict, stopped the chat.

Anyone able to offer any real time help of what I can say right now to help get her to sleep?

If I leave the room she will carry on and if I bring sibling uo to their shared room a whole charade of silliness ensues.

What are your bedroom options?
Can you put the 6yo in your bed ? +/- transfer later?

Short bedtime routine for 3yo. Leave her with 1 book. She wil get bored..
Spend some time with dc 6 downstairs..
Then take dc6 to bed..

Can you say you are going to the loo for a minute and give yourself a 3 minute break, a few deep breaths.
It's really hard.

I have a 5 and 2 yo. Not quite the same. But I do solo bedtime a lot.

i do stories in 5 yo bed with both of them. Then kiss 5 yo night night and tuck him in. Then say I’ve got to go out 2 yo to bed I’ll come and check on you. You must stay here. When I go back later he’s always asleep.

I’ve done 6 year old’s story and and she’s cleaned her teeth. Toddler still wandering about and chatting. I’m sitting with 6 year old and trying to get her to sleep.

After story and teeth it's time to blow the light out and you'll see her in the morning. Don't stay with her, you are making babies for own back. Tell her she's a big girl now and she's responsible enough to stay put while you put the baby to bed.

They share a bedroom so little one is still in her room disturbing her.

If you have 1 on 1 time with her with story will she be the big big sister and pretend to be asleep while you put the baby down?

Can you put 3 yo in your bed while 6 yo settles to sleep and then transfer 3 yo?

Reward chart for them both. When one does the right thing, really praise them and give them a sticker for their chart or a little reward the next day. The other will see this and hopefully will follow suit.

This is what I would do if separate bedrooms for the children is not an option, or other way round.

Bedtimes can be difficult and when they are sharing a room your immediate options are limited, there’s no magic words to force sleep and if you need to add another child to the mix then just leaving her to tire herself out isn’t an option so your fix for right now is to just separate them. 6 year old comes to bed with you to sleep now, 3 year old can chat away to herself until she falls asleep without bothering anyone else

I took my 3yo to my room where she proceeded to do everything snd anything but sleep, but it meant that 6yo went to sleep and I could them take the 3yo back to her bed to sleep. She finally dropped off about 8.50pm 🤦🏻‍♀️

Well done. That's a tough old night though. You must be exhausted

It does feel draining as I haven’t got anyone to tag team with!