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Would you say or do anything? EXH related

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pinkbonbons · 30/04/2025 08:33

I have 2DC with my EXH. My EXH had a girlfriend that had a one year old son. My DS became very fond of him and thought of him as a little brother. He was always looking forward to seeing him on the weekends he is with his dad. His dad split up with her (or her him, not sure which way) and EXH has another girlfriend that he’s already introduced DC to, unknown to me until DD told me. My mum used to do this with her boyfriends and it gave me attachment issues. I have remarried since EXH so my DC have met and gotten used to someone else but it’s been for 4 years, I never introduced them to anyone else (although there wasn’t anyone else in between). I’m worried that EXH introducing them to all of these people (this is at least the third- could be more that I don’t know about) will affect the DC. DS is gutted about the boy he was very fond of. It was a case last weekend of ‘I’m not with her anymore but here’s my new girlfriend’. Would you say something? Or is it none of my business?

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Funnytaste · 30/04/2025 08:43

How old are the DC in question?

Funnytaste · 30/04/2025 08:44

You can say whatever you like

but it will make squat all difference and provably just make what I imagine is a very acrimonious relationship even worse

how often is your ds with him

pinkbonbons · 30/04/2025 09:03

@Funnytaste8&6

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pinkbonbons · 30/04/2025 09:03

Sorry @Funnytastex posted, they’re with him EOW.

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YOLOPPL · 30/04/2025 09:04

I agree you can say what you like but it'll make no difference

pinkbonbons · 30/04/2025 09:24

Do you think I should @YOLOPPL?

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Funnytaste · 30/04/2025 13:05

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YOLOPPL · 30/04/2025 14:15

pinkbonbons · 30/04/2025 09:24

Do you think I should @YOLOPPL?

I wouldnt waste my energy tbh

JenniferAnistonForReals · 30/04/2025 14:18

Honestly, I wouldn’t. And I say this after realising early on that anything I said would be twisted as bitterness or something. I just bite my tongue now and make sure my children are as secure as possible.

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