I’m very prepared to be advised to back off, in fact to ignore it would be a great result because quite frankly I have enough on.
I’m very concerned about my neice (well husbands I suppose)
she’s had a difficult upbringing, her mum struggles in alsorts of ways and there seems to be a mild learning disability.
mum has had many children to different dads , no one works , social services have been heavily involved for a long time, lots of substandard housing/ overcrowding and dirty conditions.
niece also struggles, school attendance was poor , as is her level of understanding, no gcse but she’s done a level one course twice and was hoping to move onto her level two this time (she’s 18 now)
last year she found a boyfriend. He’s 40 . I expressed my concern, however mum was very happy she had a boyfriend.
over the years we have tried to support niece, but she’s a difficult person who realistically needs more support than I could give, and while she gets on well with my dh (her uncle ) he try’s to limit conversations and communication to public places (my suggestion) when he said that she often tried to make any conversation sexual when she was about 14 ish
I hope I’m making sence. I feel this girl is very very vulnerable and her ‘boyfriend’ is same age as her mum .
I would imagine that you can guess my next sentence.
she’s happily announced on social media this weekend that she’s pregnant and is so excited blah blah blah . She’s about 5 weeks pregnant.
this cycle of deprivation is just starting again.
what can I do to realistically help her ? As I said she turned 18 a few weeks back so she is an adult.
is being on the end of a phone the only help we can provide?