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I need to stop but I can’t help myself

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 27/04/2025 22:12

Right, I’m about to embarrass myself and show how pathetic I am. I fancy my physiotherapist. Quite a lot. As in. He’s on my mind more frequently than I’d like to admit after appointments. I’ve been 5 times and every time I have to be near him I shake. It’s stupid because I’m in an industry much like him whereby boundaries are extremely important as well as professionalism.

I also can’t flirt. However we got into some random conversations today like: pornstars and how they are selling their bodies and how actually men have become so sexualised in society and the problems with the new generations of children, talked about work and what I’m thinking of doing moving forwards, he had to work on my neck briefly and he held my head in his hand momentarily and I also had to touch his arm at one point and honestly it got too much I was in a fluster. I kept my composure though. Thankfully. I nearly burst out laughing too because that’s also a nervous reaction. He did make a few jokes but again I froze he asked me to lie flat face down on the bed and then he said “do you feel like you’re straight” so I moved and he said “you barely moved” and then laughed normally I’d say “you’re making me bloody nervous” but the words wouldn’t come out today.

I know I need to step back. Maybe find a new physio, yes im aware he could even be a taken man and I also know there is a professional boundary he won’t cross because he has his reputation to uphold.

But honestly the feelings I feel are problematic. I just needed to vent. Sorry. Also please don’t tell me I’m stupid, I already know this.

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ThirdSector · 27/04/2025 22:36

That almost went a bit mills and boon there....it's not/you're not pathetic.

I don't have any advice but I've seen the same massage therapist for over a decade and he's become someone I would call a friend. I'm not sure at what point we shared more about each others lives, maybe about 6 years in? 😂 He likes men though.

I'm not sure I could see a straight therapist in any profession - it's too physically close 😆

Maitri108 · 27/04/2025 22:41

Can't you just enjoy having a crush?

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 27/04/2025 22:46

ThirdSector · 27/04/2025 22:36

That almost went a bit mills and boon there....it's not/you're not pathetic.

I don't have any advice but I've seen the same massage therapist for over a decade and he's become someone I would call a friend. I'm not sure at what point we shared more about each others lives, maybe about 6 years in? 😂 He likes men though.

I'm not sure I could see a straight therapist in any profession - it's too physically close 😆

Yeah I had to keep touching him and he was touching me and it got me very flustered.

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HarpSnail · 27/04/2025 22:48

Just enjoy a crush?

Onlyhereforthebatshitneighbours · 27/04/2025 22:50

You won't be the only one to get a crush on their physio op!

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 27/04/2025 22:55

HarpSnail · 27/04/2025 22:48

Just enjoy a crush?

Crush turns into feelings for me, then making a fool
of myself

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HarpSnail · 27/04/2025 23:06

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 27/04/2025 22:55

Crush turns into feelings for me, then making a fool
of myself

You’ve met him five times, by the sound of it — this isn’t ‘feelings’ based on anything, just a sexual attraction. It happens to everyone from time to time. My sister claims to have had a brief crush on her chiropractor until she saw him on the street wearing a horrible leather blouson.

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 27/04/2025 23:07

HarpSnail · 27/04/2025 23:06

You’ve met him five times, by the sound of it — this isn’t ‘feelings’ based on anything, just a sexual attraction. It happens to everyone from time to time. My sister claims to have had a brief crush on her chiropractor until she saw him on the street wearing a horrible leather blouson.

HAHA that made me laugh. And yes it’s sexual feelings. I’m very sexually attracted to him. He stirs up feelings I’ve not felt for a while.

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OoooopsUpsideYourHead · 27/04/2025 23:08

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 27/04/2025 23:07

HAHA that made me laugh. And yes it’s sexual feelings. I’m very sexually attracted to him. He stirs up feelings I’ve not felt for a while.

Just enjoy it then 🤷‍♂️

It's not like you have to see him every day.

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 27/04/2025 23:09

Maitri108 · 27/04/2025 22:41

Can't you just enjoy having a crush?

Very much this.

I love a crush.

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 27/04/2025 23:10

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 27/04/2025 22:55

Crush turns into feelings for me, then making a fool
of myself

Well tell yourself if you start obsessing you will find a new physio

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 27/04/2025 23:12

OoooopsUpsideYourHead · 27/04/2025 23:08

Just enjoy it then 🤷‍♂️

It's not like you have to see him every day.

I’m very much trying to enjoy it but the second he told me to place my hands on parts of his body to help steady myself I felt a bit fucked and thought, shit I might just end up catching feelings. Unrequited love doesn’t feel too fabulous.

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Wouldyouelievriy · 27/04/2025 23:23

Are you both single? Could it be a thing?

OoooopsUpsideYourHead · 27/04/2025 23:33

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 27/04/2025 23:12

I’m very much trying to enjoy it but the second he told me to place my hands on parts of his body to help steady myself I felt a bit fucked and thought, shit I might just end up catching feelings. Unrequited love doesn’t feel too fabulous.

It's not love though is it.

But if you can't enjoy it then you'll have to find another physio I suppose.

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 27/04/2025 23:33

Wouldyouelievriy · 27/04/2025 23:23

Are you both single? Could it be a thing?

Honestly I have no clue if he’s single. Like none. I’m too embarrassed with getting rejected to even ask. I only go around once every 3 weeks so it’s hard to get those questions in tbh. He’s very handsome. I can’t imagine he’d be single

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 27/04/2025 23:34

OoooopsUpsideYourHead · 27/04/2025 23:33

It's not love though is it.

But if you can't enjoy it then you'll have to find another physio I suppose.

No it’s not I meant unrequited feelings I should have said.

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Focusplease · 27/04/2025 23:38

Sorry OP, I'm not sure I have any brilliant advice, but from a really selfish point of view I hope you carry on going to him because this is just the sort of thread I can enjoy!

Also, just to say...I can really see myself in this position and you have my sympathy. I've had a few crushes over the past few years when I literally can't think of anything else. I'm a bloody grown woman, ridiculous. I have a crush on someone currently and it's rubbish when you know it can't go anywhere.

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 27/04/2025 23:47

Focusplease · 27/04/2025 23:38

Sorry OP, I'm not sure I have any brilliant advice, but from a really selfish point of view I hope you carry on going to him because this is just the sort of thread I can enjoy!

Also, just to say...I can really see myself in this position and you have my sympathy. I've had a few crushes over the past few years when I literally can't think of anything else. I'm a bloody grown woman, ridiculous. I have a crush on someone currently and it's rubbish when you know it can't go anywhere.

It’s the worst. I sit there wishing he’d rip my bra off but also ask me out on a date. Neither seem to be taking place. 😂

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 27/04/2025 23:47

Focusplease · 27/04/2025 23:38

Sorry OP, I'm not sure I have any brilliant advice, but from a really selfish point of view I hope you carry on going to him because this is just the sort of thread I can enjoy!

Also, just to say...I can really see myself in this position and you have my sympathy. I've had a few crushes over the past few years when I literally can't think of anything else. I'm a bloody grown woman, ridiculous. I have a crush on someone currently and it's rubbish when you know it can't go anywhere.

Maybe I’ll go again and see if it’s 6th time lucky.

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Pandimoanymum · 28/04/2025 00:11

This thread has given me an ear worm. Jennifer Paige singing “Crush”

🎵 “It’s just a little crush, not like I faint every time we touch” 🎵
🤣

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 28/04/2025 00:24

Pandimoanymum · 28/04/2025 00:11

This thread has given me an ear worm. Jennifer Paige singing “Crush”

🎵 “It’s just a little crush, not like I faint every time we touch” 🎵
🤣

Was literally me today when he had his hands on me. Imagination was running wild I nearly started laughing to myself like a twat

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dontcryformeargentina · 28/04/2025 01:04

Sounds like you are experiencing transference. It’s quite common.

Rainbowbub22 · 28/04/2025 01:25

My husband is a physio, now I’m thinking if any of his patients feel like this about him 🫣

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