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Tell me about your 4 year old’s birthday party

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NC28 · 25/04/2025 18:43

What did you do? What do you wish you’d done (or not done)?

What party favours did you do, if any? Food? Did you get any entertainment?

How much did it set you back?

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ahe2 · 25/04/2025 18:45

My DS has had parties for his third and fourth birthdays and both times it’s been at soft play.

Darkambergingerlily · 25/04/2025 18:45

We did bouncy castle in the garden, bunch of supermarket pizzas in the oven. Siblings and parents welcome, beers and fizz. Put out a bunch of chairs. Got a friend to make a themed cake. Party games like musical bumps. They loved it and was easy

wouldn’t change anything, cost £150 all in I think. Oh no not inc cake which cost £60

usernametaken22 · 25/04/2025 18:45

Soft play. Venue did hot food platter of nuggets, pizza etc and a party bag for each child. £12.50 a head, all I had to do was provide the cake.

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Needmorelego · 25/04/2025 18:47

We had about 5 children from her nursery class at home.
Played pass the parcel, pin the tail on the donkey, musical statues.
Then went outside to the car park (we are in a flat) and blew bubbles around.
Food was mostly crisps, sausage rolls and strawberries plus the cake.
There was probably smarties and haribo involved too.
Probably cost about £20 but it was several years ago so probably £30-40 ish if we did it now.

CloverPyramid · 25/04/2025 18:51

We’re planning our son’s 4th birthday now. We’ve hired a hall at the leisure centre with a bouncy castle for around £85. We can have up to 30 children, will probably invite all his nursery buddies and our friends with children so might come close to that number.

The party is 2-4 so we’ll do a small buffet of fun snacks since it’s not a meal time.

We’re considering getting a face painter or some other entertainer but not sure. The leisure centre provide free sports equipment we can use.

TeenToTwenties · 25/04/2025 18:51

3 little friends round to our house with their mums for a few party games and food. Very low key.

Senzaunadonna · 25/04/2025 18:53

Hired a village hall (£50) and an entertainer (£250). Paid a local catering company to do food (£5 a head). Had a cake made (£60). Blew up some balloons and stuck up a few banners. Party bags were the usual shameful bags of tat probably about £3 each.

JustAnInchident · 25/04/2025 18:55

I suspect my son’s 4th birthday will be the same as his 3rd, he keeps saying he wants the same. We booked a ‘wild play’ party, which was sand pits and climbing walls and ride on cars on a race track and mini golf and all sorts like that, invited 15 of his little pals and his cousins, they laid on food and drink and did the party bags for around £200. We only needed to show up with the cake, a £12 lightning mcqueen one from Asda, on the day, super easy! No stress about setting up or tidying up or doing decorations or putting together party bags or keeping anyone entertained or anything.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/04/2025 18:57

Had 8 friends round to play.

They did a craft activity, which most of them got bored with within 15 minutes, then we let them loose to play in DS' bedroom, then we did cake and food, which extended into a drink or two with most of the parents as they came to pick the kids up.

That seems to be the established formula round here.

Party bags contained a bouncy ball, a couple of balloons and some sweets.

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 25/04/2025 19:05

I can only particularly remember one of my kids' 4th birthday parties 😳. I think the others were probably a soft play or similar.

Hired the village hall, had a bouncy castle and a magician (a woman in her 60s who was a retired school teacher, she had the kids in the palm of her hand). Made plates and plates of party food, cake and basic party bags. It wasn't showy, but it was memorable and lots of fun.

AliasGrape · 25/04/2025 19:11

Village hall, invited the whole class (school nursery) plus a few other friends and cousins.

Hall cost about £80 for 3 hours plus 30 mins either side for set up/ clean, use of kitchen. We made the party 2.5 hours though to give us a bit of leeway.

Hired an entertainer (Disney princess who sang and danced and did games) for 1 hour of that - £100

Got a cake made by a local baker another £100

Did the food ourselves - was easiest to make it all vegetarian. I did pizzas (including a couple of vegan ones for those who needed that), hummus and veggie sticks, crisps, fruit platters, some quorn sausage rolls, party rings, crispy cakes. Spent about another £100. Didn’t do sandwiches after watching piles of then be thrown away at previous parties. Tea/ coffee/ soft drink/ biscuits for the parents. MIL bought tons of fruit shoots and printed out themed labels to wrap round them - was very cute but a total faff and not something I could be bothered with, I’d have just done jugs of squash, but MIL was happy to do it and it did go down well.

Bought a load of balloons, streamers etc in keeping with the colours of the character theme, we also have a load of fabric bunting MIL made for previous events that we hung everywhere.

Printed a load of colouring sheets. Bought cardboard crowns and superhero masks, MIL brought along piles of gems and stickers etc to decorate these - she has piles of things like this as she makes cards. Used all of this to set up a craft table.

Bought a load of temporary tattoos which my friend and niece set up as a little tattoo station.

Used some speakers and disco lights we already had.

Was just enough time, they all ended up covered in tattoos and enjoyed making a crown or mask or both, ran around with balloons and helped themselves to food. The princess broke it up nicely and went down well with both boys and girls which I’d been a bit worried about - was ok for this age group anyway.

Did old school bags of tat for party bags - my DD absolutely loves the tat to be honest, it’s the best part of the party for her, and I know a lot of her friends are the same. I think they all got some bubbles, a bouncy ball, a few sweets, a few tattoos, couple of stickers, mini pencil and a piece of cake.

We did do a pass the parcel to fill the time once princess had finished and cake was being cut - wouldn’t bother with that again was a complete pain in the arse to prepare and I’d done it for the number of kids who rsvpd yes but then you had last minute drop outs and additions and it just ended up going really awry! DD had specifically asked for it but never again, unless it was a really small group.

Otherwise it was lovely and I was really happy with how it went, most importantly DD had an absolute ball.

I do think the ones with bouncy castles always go down really well too - DD was set on the princess though and we couldn’t afford both.

This year I was planning something smaller/ less work like X number of friends at soft play or similar, but we’ve also been asked if we want to do a joint party with her best friend whose birthday is very close, not sure what to do now.

Thecomfortador · 25/04/2025 19:13

Invited a couple of kids to soft play and they let us take a cake in to divvy up. Paid for whatever food the kids wanted for lunch at the venue. DS2, I actually can't remember. Probably just at home but I'm going to check photos to find out!

ilovebagpuss · 25/04/2025 19:17

Village hall was about £25 and we had nursery friends and family. Usual food bits and a bouncy castle.
Sorted party tunes mix ourselves. Played a few traditional games pass the parcel and musical statues or freeze with a funny face type thing. Always gave a sweetie as they are made to go out.
Super market cake Little party bag with cake, sweets and something like a pen or yoyo.
Tea and biscuits for adults.

nyancatdays · 25/04/2025 19:38

For DD’s fourth birthday we did a hall hire of the local school’s dance studio with an entertainer - a wonderful lady who did dance classes that my DD already went to. She did a great circus-themed dance and story party with the kids, and we then had a traditional sandwiches and cake party tea (ham, cheese and jam sandwiches, veg sticks, hummus and mini tomatoes, party ring and chocolate finger biscuits, cupcakes, jellies in pots and birthday cake). We invited ten of her nursery friends, and two came with younger siblings who we were also happy to host.

We also had some coffee, tea and M&S tub treats (eg mini brownies and flapjacks) for the grown-ups.

We stayed up too late the night before making too many home-made cakes and too much food! Kids don’t often actually eat that much at a party tea, so don’t over-cater is my advice. We ended up literally pleading with the mums and dads to take cakes home with them and still ended up eating party food for days. (Also don’t feel like you have to have everything all perfectly homemade. No-one actually cares if the cupcakes are shop bought tbh, the other parents are just grateful for a cup of coffee and a flapjack and 90 minutes where someone else is looking after their kid 😆)

Ditto party bags — get some colourful paper bags from eBay or Sainsbury’s, a tub of bubbles each from Tiger, a party hat (Tesco do good ones), and one thing like a bouncy ball or a paper plane/seed packet/wooden bracelet/yo yo plus a slice of cake and you’re good to go, don’t overthink them. I found a mini bag of Skittles or Haribo was appreciated at that age, but they often liked one toy rather than lots of breakable mini plastic items at that age. Have a look at the sale section at Rex London for nice discounted things, also Flying Tiger.

Flying Tiger and Sainsburys both do good cheap colourful paper cups and plates for kids’ birthday parties - Tiger do great cheap colourful paper bunting which is a bit more eco-friendly than lots of balloons as decoration. Though for 4 year olds you can always just take down the balloons and give one each to the party attendees to go home.

popandchoc · 25/04/2025 19:47

Eldest had a hall with a bouncy castle and bikes and food. They seemed to all enjoy.

Think youngest had a little party in the garden.

Usernamerequired09 · 25/04/2025 19:58

Soft play party with food for kids. It was 10-12 noon. And some snacks for adults like samosas and wraps. Cost about 450 as all his mates came plus some of our neighbors who have same age children. Total kids about 17.
Plus cake for £50 from Lola’s no decorations required at soft play but I did buy him a large number 4 balloon. I love balloons.

on his actual birthday I got another cake from Tesco about £15.

HairOfFineStraw · 25/04/2025 20:50

Rented a room at the city farm- 2 hours and included a farm tour. No difference in price 10 kids and more in depth tour or 25 kids. So we invited everyone and let siblings come.

Costco cake £16; got rolls at Costco and made little sandwiches and finger foods.

Paper plates and a few decorations and for favours they each got to take a candy, bag of crisps and a book bought in bulk from The Works.

Was about £250 I think

NC28 · 25/04/2025 23:19

Thanks everyone!

My child hasn’t had a birthday party as such before - just family things - so I was a bit taken aback by the cost of it all.

Apparently the average party costs upward of £500 these days. 😐Mental!

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SnowInJune · 25/04/2025 23:27

I hired a local hall and hired the lady who went into nursery to run a stretch n grow class to do a session for us. Did food myself, wrapped sandwiches, bags of fruit, veg bags, packets of crisps, bags of sausages, small fairy cakes. Kids worked down the line taking what they wanted. Anything not eaten was wrapped and not poked so taken home.

For 3rd birthdays, and think it would work for 4th, we hired the hall, food same as above and took down all toys that were good for sharing, lego, cars and car mat, a pitate ship, dolls pram and pushchair etc and just let them play.

Fushia123 · 25/04/2025 23:29

We had a party at home for pre school friends. I borrowed some small tables and chairs from the nursery and set the tables to eat party food. Best part and well remembered was my DH doing a Sooty magic show. He dipped down behind the sofa and put the Sooty puppet on his hand and talked to him. Sooty tried to drink water from a cup and threw it all over DH, and then tried to play a tune on the xylophone - out of tune of course and he got told off. The children literally rolled around, crying with laughter! 🤷‍♀️
That was quite a few years ago but it’s still true that simple can be best.

HeddaGarbled · 25/04/2025 23:36

6 children at home with mums for 2 hours on Saturday afternoon. Traditional party games (pass the parcel, musical statues etc), then tea, cake with candles, sing happy birthday, party bags, home.

Then on the Sunday, we had the grandparents round for tea.

Snoodley · 25/04/2025 23:40

Do any of his friends have a birthday near his? We did ours jointly. It would have cost a fortune otherwise, plus the stress is shared (we are not natural hosts!)

HairOfFineStraw · 26/04/2025 07:04

@NC28our farm party was Nov and all the children have done a softplay by now. So much softplay these last few years!! Around here they are like £12 a kid. No way would I accept £500.

Here's all the parties we have had so far. Note all are 2 hours:
the farm party
several soft plays in the area
rent out a community hall with one key activity (bouncy house, Disney lady, or magician or kids dj) and provide own snacks

here's one lots of parents have done but they are all about the same
https://www.monkey-bizness.co.uk/southampton-parties

ahe2 · 26/04/2025 08:17

NC28 · 25/04/2025 23:19

Thanks everyone!

My child hasn’t had a birthday party as such before - just family things - so I was a bit taken aback by the cost of it all.

Apparently the average party costs upward of £500 these days. 😐Mental!

It’s a lot. I have a child born in December and one in July and I book and start paying for the July one in February and the December one in August.

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