Texting in a newish realtionship

[Backbag]

I see him several days a week. Don't really feel the need for text "conversations" between times and am certainly not about to start trying to have important conversations by text.

However, he does sometimes send me a news article, picture or some comment about what's happening in his day. I'll respond showing some interest and he won't even look at the message for hours, then when he does often doesn't respond. .

Part of me thinks that's OK, we'll talk about it tonight/tomorrow and I don't "need" to hear from him at all. It's nice that he thought of me when he saw the article etc. Otoh why bother if you're not going to engage?

I have a couple of friends who do this - really annoying, comes across as avoidant. It’s like they want to engage but then don’t actually want to put the work in for real engagement. I give it short shrift and want put up with it in a relationship.

It's just firing informal stuff backwards and forwards that you have seen that you think people might like.

A lot of people do it, and sometimes people respond and comment and sometimes people don't. Sometimes they chat about it when they meet up.

It's no biggie and I wouldn't feel pressured to treat every thing that is sent as requiring a considered and formal response.

That's a bit weird. I do know people who just send me random articles or videos, but then if I reply saying something about it they would want to have a conversation. I guess if you don't like lots of texting then chatting about the news or a video for ages might seem a bit tedious?
If everything else is fine I personally wouldn't let it be too much of an issue. You could always ask him when you see him?

It’s basically saying I’m not going to /or need to msg all the time but am just having tokenistic contact so it doesn’t look weird if I don’t msg at all & to just keep light contact going in between of dates/seeing eachother. It’s pointless & inauthentic & a bit tedious (but then so is the majority of SM & msging) & may be a reflection on him - not v original? Or just a follower of social convention? You could always say I appreciate the thought behind it but don’t need it & he might feel relieved & lay off it. Or be mortally offended bcos he really likes sharing inane news stories that you’ve already had in your feed!