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Group friends and birthday celebrations

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IncessantNameChanger · 25/04/2025 10:06

Not posting on AIBU because I suspect I am.

I have a group of friends who I meet at least once a week for years for a group hobby. Anytime it's someone's birthday we have lunch to mark that. However it's never been done for my birthday. I have been asked more than once so it's been written down. Two of the group I see outside of the group and they also know when my birthday is.

I'm not upset and enjoy every birthday meet up for what it is. It's always enjoyable and I love their company.

The thing niggling me is I think it's dawning on me that I'm possibly a bit more invisible than I had thought. I think of them as friends but maybe we are more aqauntancies. Which is fine but it's always someone other than the birthday person saying "it's x birthday next month so let's sort a date for lunch". But dispite asking me this year when my birthday was I didn't even get told happy birthday from anyone.

I'm not sad or angry. I don't know, just feels a bit like I'm not noticed or worse maybe not liked and I'm missing a very big hint.

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OoooopsUpsideYourHead · 25/04/2025 10:11

They probably think you're not into celebrating your birthday as not everyone is.

Just say "Can we get together on X date for my birthday?"

Once they know you're into it, they'll probably remember in advance next year.

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