Have you reported ASB to a school?

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Live in central London. Was out today, minding my own beeswax when two maybe 14 year old girls just started insulting me and followed me about 400m with threatening language. Completely unprovoked. Just vile vile behaviour.

Not pleasant. Held the tears back until they’d gone. I guess a lot of the emotion is shock at how awful someone can be, especially at that age, and I don’t think I’ve lived an especially sheltered life.

I think I know which school they go to (they were in half sports kit, half own clothes) so am debating emailing the school with an account and physical description.

Has anyone done similar and did the school care?

I witnessed a group of similarly aged boys in the supermarket just after school finished for the day and they were “bantering” with another lad calling him all sorts of homophobic slurs.

as someone who’s brother was bullied to the point of hospitalisation as a teen for his sexuality I was disgusted and phoned the school. Said I understood it wasn’t on school property or in the school day but that they were in uniform and the language was unacceptable, plus without knowing the children I couldn’t know whether the recipient of the name calling would be joking along or putting on a brave face til he got home and potentially did something dreadful.

I hope they took it on board and reinforced what is acceptable in assembly but I expect they did nothing with it as the lady I spoke to didn’t seem bothered!

That’s awful, but well done for sticking up for that kid

I don’t have children so I don’t know if this is just how teens are these days or if this is, indeed, shocking

It absolutely isn't just how teens are these days. I would definitely report it and I would hope the school would do something about it - they were in uniform and therefore it does reflect on the school.

Would you consider reporting it to 101 as well?

Definitely call the school! Their behaviour was disgusting and I'm sorry you had to deal with that 💕

I go out of my way to avoid school kids, should they say something about my appearance (I'm a little fragile on that front) - they can be awful

I debated reporting to 101 if only to get a crime reference number to light a fire under the school’s arse.

It is an Academy school with a Good rating (?) so I’m hoping they have some semblance of pastoral give-a-shit.

Thank you for the supportive words. Expected a flaming to get over it and put big girl pants on. It’s just so shocking to me.

Yes I would
Last time I did, I was on the train to work and a group of boys were sharing porn in their phones in a totally obvious and graphic way.
Dunno if anything was done.

I would report to the school. These kids could be doing the same thing when they are in school. Imagine if a child has already complained about them being bullies and it’s still happening. Your report could help contribute to more serious action being taken.

How bloody awful ,vile kids .
I would certainly be reporting this to the school.
I called the school my kids attended when i saw some boys verbally abuse another boy after school, the head at the time actually took my call ,he was an amazing man now retired and he knew exactly the poor boy i was talking about and reassured me he would tackle it.
If the head has a similar attitude those girls may think twice before doing it again.

We often had reports of poor behaviour at my last school so yes, definitely do this.

Yes definitely report. If you report to 101 and get a crime number and inform the school, hopefully the little shits will get a big shock and they'll think twice about doing it to someone else.

Not just bad behaviour, I also contacted a local school when every day I had to swerve to avoid groups of pupils walking across the road with their heads in their phones. It's not the school's responsibility of course but I felt they should be informing parents and doing a little education in school about how to cross a road...

These two girls separately might not be too identifiable, but the way they just…synced with each other, they’re for sure known as a BFF delinquent duo, so I don’t doubt they’d be very identifiable to staff. Known to the staff, frequent punishments etc.

Their parents obviously don’t care because this behaviour was so off the chart they must be like it 24/7 and it’s normalised. Part of me wanted to, ha, reason with them and point out the real world doesn’t tolerate this behaviour and they were about to have an awful life ahead of them, or they’d do this to the wrong person and get a slap round the face one day. Alas, in their bubble, they’re untouchable. The penny won’t drop.

I don’t know how teachers cope.

So sorry you’ve been subjected to this, OP.

As a former teacher, please let the school know. I’ve done it before - they’re in ‘uniform’ and therefore representing the school. The school will have their own way of dealing with these types of incidents - and may even contact parents.

On a brighter note, I once saw two schoolboys assisting someone who had fallen and being genuinely kind, caring and mature. So I also reported that to the school, as a little thank you to pass on