Were you a colicky baby?

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Or had acid reflux?

If so, did your mother hold it against you for the rest of her life, reminding you how “difficult” you were at every opportunity?

I’ve seen numerous threads on here from new mums asking for help and all I can see is love and concern for the poor little baby. I wouldn’t dream of conflating a difficult situation with the personality of said baby and carrying that on into their own adulthood.

This would be tip of the iceberg of a thoroughly and profoundly abusive mother

I read MN often but rarely post, yes I’m nearly 50 and my mother still holds it against me that I yelled between 5-9pm every night for 3 months. I’ve been told I was a horrible baby and she dreaded every evening with me, I don’t suppose it helped that my father worked shifts so was only home at weekends. My mother is emotionally cruel in other ways too.

Oh and I ruined her holiday when I was a toddler for picking up a gastro bug.

😢

Sorry to hear your story @WestSussexWitch that sounds awful.

I’d never talk to my own kids like this. I remember all those nights trying to comfort a distraught baby and if there was ever any negative emotion then that is my failing as a parent, not the fault of the child.

Oh goodness no
One of my babies was colicky and it was heartbreaking because I just wanted to help him, i felt so sad for him. He's now 2 and a very happy, cheerful little guy, we've long moved on- it feels like a distant memory. Even when he was struggling I just felt sad for him, never mad at him.
Hard seeing parents who take normal developmental childhood behavior as a personal attack against them, it's quite narcissistic really. Sorry if you are the colicky baby on the receiving end of this.