What would you expect DP's response to this to be?

[Coldbacon]

DP? Together 6m, but I don't know what you call that when you're old!

He's away this weekend. He did invite me to go, and I dithered a bit, but decided he should go and have fun with his friends without me and I'll have a weekend to myself.

I've arranged to see a band with a male friend on Friday evening and on Saturday I'm going out to lunch and to see some sport with another male friend. Both people I knew long before I met DP and he's met them both.

It's just coincidental they're both men, my interests are such that lots of my friends are men.

Well if he knows you and your friends then I can't imagine he would bat an eyelid. My friendship group is 2/3rds male as well and everyone I have ever had a relationship with knows this and has been fine with it.

The response I would expect would be “ “have a great time with your mates”

He should be fine with it, I have lots of male friends most of whom I've known longer than DH and it's just not an issue.

My DH wouldn’t think anything of it.

Two of my best friends are male.
One I’ve known since I was 6 years old and the other is an ex-colleague from the Army.
I’ve hung out with those friends without DH a billion times.

Lots of people wouldn't like this. He should be fine with it especially if he already knew you were friends with them.

You were friends with these men long before DP came along, he should be mature enough about it to wish you a nice time.

I would hope he would be happy you are going out with friends and having a lovely time.

I’d expect him to say, “Great. Have a good time.”

That sounds grand. What's the issue?
It's perfectly normal to have male friends!

Dh has 2 very good female friends who were on the scene (40+ years) way before I was (30years ago). He goes out for dinner with them & messages them regularly. I have no issue with it. I don’t think I even have their numbers.

I think this early on in a relationship it might be seen as a bit of a 🖕🏼that your DP has gone away without you - has he gone as part of a mixed group? It could be seen as a bit of a power play- you’ve gone away without me, but there’s plenty of options for me so don’t you worry! Could make him feel a bit defensive?

I’m not suggesting these feelings are valid, helpful or healthy, but I don’t know his relationship history. Hopefully with plenty of open communication you can navigate through this situation without any issue.

I would hope his response would be ‘have a great time, can’t wait to see you next week!’

I’m guessing this is not the message you’ve received though?