How to invite nursery children to birthday parties?

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My child will be 4 in August and he started nursery this year. For his previous birthday parties, we have invited children from his baby/toddler classes but this year I think it would be nice to invite children from nursery. It is difficult as he has a speech delay and is awaiting an autism assessment so he doesn’t really have friends and he can’t tell me who he likes/who he plays with but there have been a couple of children who have said bye to him when they’ve left nursery at the same time so I assume that he is at least liked by other children.

I would like to find out which children he plays with/near and/or who he seems to like/who likes him and then talk to their parents about them coming to his party. His birthday is at the end of August which is a tricky time for availability so I would also like to ask whether August or September would be better for people before booking something.

I was thinking I could either:

A. Ask nursery which children they think would be the best to invite and then ask them to ask the parents if they want to swap contact details.

B. Write a note explaining about the party with my phone number on and ask nursery to give it out to the children they think he would like to have at his party.

C. Something else? Help 🙈😂

How many are in the nursery class? We do whole class invites (24 kids) for a bouncy castle party at this age. Give the teacher the invites to send home with the kids.

Ask the staff who he plays with then write party invites. We're quite used to it at the nursery where I work. Or, as suggested above, invite everyone ( depending on size of class, venue costs. )

I'm in the same boat, DD will be 3 in June and having a party at village hall- disco, bouncy castle etc. I was just going to ask the nursery staff to give invites to her 5 closest friends? But wondering if I'm bring a bit stingy with just 5 🤔

I'd ask the practitioners in his room, they should happily write a list of children he plays with/interacts with or pop a note in their bag/drawer for parents. I've done this plenty of times for the children in my setting.

I would invite the whole class - the hire of the hall, disco and bouncy castle will be the same whether you have 5 or 25. The only extra cost will be the additional food but you just need a few plates of sandwiches, crisps, biscuits or cakes and some jugs of squash. A disco for 5 doesn’t sound very exciting.

Thank you, I hadn't thought about it like that. She has lots of cousins and some friends from outside nursery, but you're right re the cost. Just realised OP you were asking for advice about dates August V Sept, if I were you I would just pick whatever date was closest to his Birthday and suited your immediate family first.