What can I get my friend as a wedding present??

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I am so bad at knowing what to buy people.

I’ve asked if there’s a honeymoon fund we can donate to but there isn’t.

I would buy a plant or tree but they live with parents at the mo.

My mum has got them a giant oak salt pig with their names engraved, which was well over £100, but I know that’s not their taste and is just a generic wedding present and will end up in the loft.

A cheque feels impersonal and would have to acquire a chequebook. Do people give cash at weddings?? How much?

Old childhood friend getting married but I clearly don’t know her very well anymore. Have met fiance about twice. She likes the outdoors (wildlife, walking, foraging etc), crafts, books.

Help!

It’s whatever amount you want - you’re a guest and not paying for a seat in a restaurant.

@sandgrown NT membership is over £2500! EDIT: sorry, realise you meant annual not life, not enough coffee this morning clearly.

£50 cash per person is our go to, more for family. So £100 for a couple. Vouchers can be good (John Lewis).

Cash never comes amiss. Or a voucher such as John Lewis. Unless you know for sure that there’s something they particularly want, most people just don’t want Stuff.
We've only given cash for ages now.

Cash. Especially if they’re living with parents, I assume they are saving for a deposit.

If they are still living with parents, voucher for a hotel stay somewhere they like.
They can then use it after the wedding for some 'them time'.

Gift vouchers to lots of different restaurants for date nights.

I was going to suggest just that.

I love using things we were given as wedding presents - I would give something like a lovely vase, wine glasses, champagne glasses, photo frame, clock etc

We've done £50 in a card, vouchers for a new restaurant that opened locally, and tickets to a comedy show for our last few weddings gifts.

One of the best non cash gifts we got was an at home dinner for 2, but it was all Harvey nics stuff. Posh pasta, a posh pasta sauce, dried mushrooms, a bottle of decent fizz and 2 glasses to drink it out of.

We still have the glasses almost 25 years later!

Otherwise it's cash. Minimum £50. £100 for good friends and more for really special people.

Of course it's whatever amount you want - but giving less than £100 would be very embarrasing. It would also suggest you're either not very well off, or you're tight and I wouldn't want to be thought of either of those things by a good friend.

£50 is what you spend on your mate every single birthday by the time you get them some flowers and a card and go for a meal. £100 is a once in a lifetime getting married gift. And even £100 doesn't go very far these days. £250 would be better.

Many people don’t have that type of money and the cost of getting to the wedding would be a financial burden. I’d find it embarrassing if friends, who I knew had many demands on their money, gave us more than they could sensibly afford. A card and good wishes are more than enough.

Absolutely nonsense. People give all kinds of different amounts in different situations. If you judge your friends for not giving you what you decide is enough cash that's a horrible attitude entirely of your own choosing.

Why would it be an issue if your friends knew that you weren’t well off? Surely with friends it’s not a problem - you don’t choose your friends from their bank balance.

I like the idea of NT membership for a year - and the picnic blanket too. What nice ideas.

a couple of things we appreciated that looked more personal than they were

• a coffee table book of photos from national parks
• the good beer guide with cash to buy ourselves a few rounds
• a really good flask

This is so bizarre. Had no idea these rules existed 😂 I must owe my friends of 40 years thousands in presents!

Gift card And a nice photo frame. I didn't receive may photo frames. I received a beautiful one from one friend and it allowed me to put a photo up within a few days of getting married

Following on from the picnic blanket idea, how about a picnic set in a backpack? Bargains online. You could add a bottle of fizz.
Etsy voucher, Lakeland voucher, fizz and glasses, photo frame a good idea too.

https://www.mountainwarehouse.com/4-person-picnic-set-patterned-p12390.aspx/Blue/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=ePMax+-+High+-+Shopping+UK&utm_term=&utm_content=%7Cpcrid%7C%7Cpkw%7C%7Cpmt%7C%7Cpdv%7Cm%7Cslid%7C%7Cproduct%7C022669006001%7Cgrp%7C%7Ctid%7C%7Ccmp%7C20642088702%7C&searchintent=&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAADoKbU_wdGqNajHC8TO6lyvV6Jlzt&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIrd2mrqHmjAMV7pFQBh3Y6Q0bEAQYASABEgKYtvD_BwE

There really isn't a set amount

That's very niche

@DenholmElliot11 - & what if you are hard up, would a true friend want you to get into debt? Irresponsible posting.

Mr and Mrs anything would have gone to the charity shop at the first available opportunity here. I’d go with cash or giftcards too.

I always give cash. None of the presents we were given at our wedding were used and most of the ones recommended on this thread would be a waste. National trust is an odd one as they probably already have it if it’s something they are interested in. Ignore the people saying to give £250

B&Q Voucher? Or a nice memory box?

I’d give either cash, or a JL/ M&S voucher for whatever you can afford.
Don’t stress that it’s impersonal, they can buy whatever they need.