No good deed

[coldcallerbaiter]

‘No good deed goes unpunished’

What are your examples?

I have just gone out of my way to ‘rescue’ a friends late teen daughter, she missed her flight home, she stays in London because she studies here, but she and her parents live abroad, I put her up for a couple of days, and sorted her new booking. I overheard her and her mum on the phone laughing about my spare room and the bathroom she is using. Err yes it needs an update but that’s so ungrateful and rude, I wasn’t supposed to hear I guess and I won’t say anything but that’s the last thing I do for her lot….

I'd have to say something to her. Late teens is old enough to understand she should be bloody grateful.

I'd let them know. You could say to the mum "As X has noticed, the bedroom and bathroom need updating, but I hope I've been of help."

She came at short notice so the spare room had stuff dumped in there ready for sorting and I have a teen daughter myself and her stuff tends to creep in to the spare room. As for the bathroom, it’s the one my dc share not my one, it is clean and white but is about 10 years old and basic not fancy. She seemed to think it was a ‘grotty’ bathroom, well we all have our standards but is that all she can think of to discuss about her impromptu stay?

Anyway, got me thinking- any good stories out there?

That was a really nasty thing for her to do, sorry you had that happen OP.

I was in a traffic jam and a cyclist on the pavement suddenly fell off his bike. I and another driver jumped out. We put him in the recovery position, the other driver picked up his bike and we decided as he had a mobile on him and I didn't that he should call an ambulance. Just as he was speaking to the call handler, the man who'd fallen came to and told us both to fuck off. Got on his bike and wobbled away.

Several years ago, I was in Winchester and as it was Christmas it was jam packed with people. A woman collapsed a few feet in front of me and everyone was just walking past her so I went up and asked her if she was OK, could I help her up or do anything to help. She sat up spat at me and told me to fuck off.

Neither of these people smelled of alcohol, nor appeared to have taken drugs either. I suspected a kind of fit because I know that can cause a reaction like that but I don't know for certain.

Anyway it doesn't stop me offering help if I see someone in trouble but it's not always accepted, I've learned to not take it personally.

I offered to give two friends a lift somewhere. I then got a fine for being in a bus lane because I pulled into the kerb for literally the time it took them to get out of the car. It was a new bus lane and I hadn't realised I couldn't stop there any more.

I wonder if the phrase means that the recipient of kindness is ungrateful, destructive or wants too much extra or if it is fate that punishes you, for example getting a parking fine for doing the lift?

It’s tricky because if I myself would want a favour, it would feel hurtful if they point blank said no.