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Lovelysummerdays · 19/04/2025 22:21

I think she is incredibly brave. I could not of done what she did. I’d of clung to my right of anonymity like a security blanket. She shouldn’t have to feel shame and keep her head down living a quiet life of chastity. Does she somehow stop being a victim if she moves on?

Hope they pay her lots and do her story justice.

GreenClock · 19/04/2025 22:24

Good for her! Amazing woman.

BangersAndGnash · 19/04/2025 22:28

CalicoPusscat · 19/04/2025 21:20

What do you mean? That sounds like you're criticising her. She's entitled to tell her story.

No, you have misunderstood.

SimonJT is being critically bitter about those who judge her refusing to hide herself away as a meek victim

Parenchyma · 19/04/2025 22:28

@Redheadedstepchild As someone who has been raped, I can tell you that being judged by people who like to imagine that they would have done better than the victim in the victim's position is pretty intolerable.

I am glad Giselle Pelicott stood up and was brave enough to waive her anonymity to shed light on this issue. Men like that ruin so many lives, they deserve to be locked up, and they are the ones who deserve to be judged, not the victims.

You get raped and they go through your medical and school records as the victim, if you want to stop the rapist abusing anyone else you're the one who has to take time off work and arrange childcare so the police can ask you in humiliating detail about what happened. On the stand the rapist's barrister gets to say the most horrific things to you, I challenge you to look up some of the disgusting things that they have said to victims of sexual abuse, and they do it because the easier way get the rapist off is to tarnish and defile you to make out that you somehow deserved that abuse.

People like to assume you earned the abuse somehow, because they needed to believe that they are invincible, and the only way they can do that is by inventing faults in the victim , and deciding that they must have deserved what happened to them. Gisele Pelicott can do as she pleases, she is a hero. Judgement is the last thing she needs.

SilenceInside · 19/04/2025 22:31

It’s not difficult to understand how someone who was a victim of an absolute betrayal by someone who should have had her best interests at heart, would be interested in taking agency back and telling her own story. It’s pretty consistent with the decision to remove her anonymity for the trial for example. And, she can do whatever she wants to do, that feels right for her. Just because Giselle Pelicot isn’t choosing what you might choose doesn’t make her wrong or in need of criticism.

I also think it’s pretty sad to suggest that she’s being taken advantage of just because she’s making a different choice to what you think she should have.

CalicoPusscat · 19/04/2025 22:33

BangersAndGnash · 19/04/2025 22:28

No, you have misunderstood.

SimonJT is being critically bitter about those who judge her refusing to hide herself away as a meek victim

Ah OK, sorry. I thought it was criticism at first.

Redheadedstepchild · 19/04/2025 23:18

Parenchyma · 19/04/2025 22:28

@Redheadedstepchild As someone who has been raped, I can tell you that being judged by people who like to imagine that they would have done better than the victim in the victim's position is pretty intolerable.

I am glad Giselle Pelicott stood up and was brave enough to waive her anonymity to shed light on this issue. Men like that ruin so many lives, they deserve to be locked up, and they are the ones who deserve to be judged, not the victims.

You get raped and they go through your medical and school records as the victim, if you want to stop the rapist abusing anyone else you're the one who has to take time off work and arrange childcare so the police can ask you in humiliating detail about what happened. On the stand the rapist's barrister gets to say the most horrific things to you, I challenge you to look up some of the disgusting things that they have said to victims of sexual abuse, and they do it because the easier way get the rapist off is to tarnish and defile you to make out that you somehow deserved that abuse.

People like to assume you earned the abuse somehow, because they needed to believe that they are invincible, and the only way they can do that is by inventing faults in the victim , and deciding that they must have deserved what happened to them. Gisele Pelicott can do as she pleases, she is a hero. Judgement is the last thing she needs.

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I was raped and repeatledy sodomised by men from Guinea in Africa when I voluntarialy put myself in a psychiatric hospital in France. I admit that I was a bit of a precious darling with First World Problems at the time. But it was the law of the jungle in there. The Africans that they were processing on drug charges were in there because they claimed, "Mental Health" You had to stay with them for protection. They ruled the place.

The staff didn't care. I got pregnant, they sent me to the hospital for a termination at quite a long way along with pills. I just bled out in a small room.

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Pieceofpurplesky · 20/04/2025 02:04

She is an amazing woman for not letting what happened define her future. I wish her love and happiness. she is an inspiration

PremiumD · 20/04/2025 02:08

She can do whatever she wants as far as I’m concerned. She’s about the last woman I’d considering judging. How brilliant she’s living her life and finding some joy.

Cornetto3 · 20/04/2025 02:35

She's controlling her narrative in the way she wants to.

You do you, and that's fine.

Ted27 · 20/04/2025 12:44

@Redheadedstepchild

That's quite a drip feed, but nonetheless you have been through a dreadful experience and I'm truly sorry that happened to you. I hope you have since got some help and support.
How you have decided to deal with your experience is not however really relevant to Giselle Pelicott. She has been courageous in speaking out and it's up to her how she deals with her trauma.
That is also not to say that you haven't shown courage. In my view all survivors of sexual violence show tremendous courage.
I wish you well for the future

researchers3 · 20/04/2025 20:30

Redheadedstepchild · 19/04/2025 23:18

I was raped and repeatledy sodomised by men from Guinea in Africa when I voluntarialy put myself in a psychiatric hospital in France. I admit that I was a bit of a precious darling with First World Problems at the time. But it was the law of the jungle in there. The Africans that they were processing on drug charges were in there because they claimed, "Mental Health" You had to stay with them for protection. They ruled the place.

The staff didn't care. I got pregnant, they sent me to the hospital for a termination at quite a long way along with pills. I just bled out in a small room.

God OP, that's so awful. I'm really sorry to hear that.

Hope you're doing OK.

NinaOakley · 20/04/2025 20:42

She did a great service for women worldwide. If she can use her story, that is already in the public domain, to give herself some security, I think that’s smart. If she gets a fairytale ending with a man who makes her happy, I’m thrilled for her.

rocket74 · 21/04/2025 00:38

I’ve just finished watching Until I Kill You about Delia Balmer. It’s very striking how different the narrative is when told through the voice of the victim/survivor. Delia was involved in the script and filming based on her book. Another very strong and non conventional ‘victim’. None of the horrific things that happened were gratuitously shot or sexed up.
I hope that GP can ensure her voice is the focus of her story.

FancyNewt · 21/04/2025 01:01

I am guessing she wants to get ahead of any intrusive press articles. It's not like the press wouldn't have reported the story if her new relationship ship anyway..

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Mumofteenandtween · 21/04/2025 01:36

It is rather a good “fuck you” to every man who harmed her. “You are rotting in jail whilst I am moving on with my life and living happily.”

Charliecatpaws · 21/04/2025 04:05

Good God she’s a very strong woman. I can’t read the article as it’s in French it why would anyone berate her if she’s found happiness? You’re yery judging OP

SingWithMeJustForToday · 21/04/2025 04:15

I am extremely sorry for what happened to you, OP.

But there are different coping mechanisms, and hers does not have to match yours,

And more to the point, people will tell her story. They’ll do it with or without her involvement. At least this way she can inform the narrative and make some money from it.

dogsandcatsandhorses · 21/04/2025 04:16

I hope he is 100% trustworthy and she is happy.
Im sure she never wanted her life to have to be broadcast to the world as it was so I hope being able to say “ I survived, I won” gives her contentment and happiness.

BabyOrca · 21/04/2025 04:27

That's some piss poor AI translation right there, Paris Match.

FeelYourWorriesDisappear · 21/04/2025 04:30

Redheadedstepchild · 19/04/2025 21:01

I'd just like to live a quiet life. Not sell my story for an HBO documentary. I'd be too exhausted. I also don't know whether I'd be ready to have any man in my life ever again. Is she being exploited again?

You can’t possibly know how you would feel or what you would do in her situation. Judge the men who did what they did, not the female victim. FFS.

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