@Redheadedstepchild As someone who has been raped, I can tell you that being judged by people who like to imagine that they would have done better than the victim in the victim's position is pretty intolerable.
I am glad Giselle Pelicott stood up and was brave enough to waive her anonymity to shed light on this issue. Men like that ruin so many lives, they deserve to be locked up, and they are the ones who deserve to be judged, not the victims.
You get raped and they go through your medical and school records as the victim, if you want to stop the rapist abusing anyone else you're the one who has to take time off work and arrange childcare so the police can ask you in humiliating detail about what happened. On the stand the rapist's barrister gets to say the most horrific things to you, I challenge you to look up some of the disgusting things that they have said to victims of sexual abuse, and they do it because the easier way get the rapist off is to tarnish and defile you to make out that you somehow deserved that abuse.
People like to assume you earned the abuse somehow, because they needed to believe that they are invincible, and the only way they can do that is by inventing faults in the victim , and deciding that they must have deserved what happened to them. Gisele Pelicott can do as she pleases, she is a hero. Judgement is the last thing she needs.