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what excuse would you use if you didnt want to go somewhere? what excuse did people used to use

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WillowTit · 18/04/2025 14:21

You be the judge: My daughter pulled out of my birthday meal. Should she pay her share of the bill? | Life and style | The Guardian

all this talk of anxiety
it was never used in the past
was it nerves
or just a white lie?

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PollyCreo · 18/04/2025 16:08

I no longer use excuses, I just say 'I can't make it sorry, maybe next time'.

InSpainTheRain · 18/04/2025 16:19

Personally I don't tend to commit to much, just because I'm old enough to know I probably won't want to go! I read the article and I think it all seems a storm in a teacup. If one of my kids said they couldn't attend my birthday meal I'd give a bit of a mental eye roll at the last minute notice, but not a huge deal.

Eyerollexpert · 18/04/2025 16:38

I read this too, and I do think the daughter should have paid her share. Personally I say no if I don't want to do something, you don't need to say why. Sometimes I do things I don't want to do mostly to support family.

FleaBeeBob · 18/04/2025 16:39

No thanks.
Done and dusted

HairyGarden · 18/04/2025 16:42

I agree, never used to be a thing. I suppose it’s harder to criticise someone for disappointing you or shoddy behaviour if they claim it is down to a mental health issue rather than any other white lie.

On that Guardian piece, the thing I find odd is the presumption that Rita’s friends and family should pick up the tab when she dropped out at the last minute. She should be responsible for her own costs - and I don’t see why her having anxiety is an answer to that. I’d expect her to pay if she had dropped out because of a flat tyre / working late etc. Her attitude smacks of entitlement which seems to co-exist with the use of her “anxiety”
to guilt everyone else into paying up.

Growsomeballswoman · 18/04/2025 16:44

I’d have asked them to box up Rita’s meal and taken it home at the very least

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