Constantly on the edge of fury - anyone?

[MannersMonday]

Over the past 6 months or so I have found that I am constantly flying into horrible rages and seething with fury about the stupidest things like simple rota changes at work or cars parked badly on the side of the road. It's like a red mist that descends.

The problem is that it almost feels out of my control and I can see in a logical way that it's not proportional but rage often just appears and I'm left with this horrible anger just swimming inside my entire body.

I'm 42 and have had some period changes in the last year with some other possible symptoms so wondering if it might be perimenopausal?

Has anyone else experienced this? It makes me feel weirdly lonely as I can see it's just me and I have no idea how to simmer down when it happens.

Is this anyone else's experience in a perimenopausal phase?

hi, yes, I had this - get to the Dr and get some HRT, its a god send! You do not need to suffer this alone. There are also lots of herbal supplements to try out, but dont mix the two without discussing it with your GP.

There are perimenopause threads on here, if you do a search you will find them and im sure you will see you are not alone and theres plenty of advice on them too.

I had this - I was livid the whole time! Have you ever seen Curb Your Enthusiasm? I felt like Susie in that. HRT sorted me out - it was amazing.

Are you really stressed? Got a lot of responsibility? I have found I can be like that when I need a complete break, from kids, work, life. Not sure if a break is a possibility for you (I use a day AL or DH takes the kids somewhere all day). But also yes to hormones. I quite like the Rheal hormones tonic powder you mix with water that has helped me a lot.

Oh yes, this resonates! I'm 65 now, but back when I was in peri - I have no idea how DH put up with me - I'd go off at the slightest thing, and then usually burst into tears. Emotions were totally out of control - and on the inside, I knew it, but was unable to stop being very, very unreasonable. My brain also went to mush - building databases was my thing at the time, but logic left me for a few years, and it was a struggle.

It does pass - I got through the whole thing without HRT, and without either me killing DH or him killing me, so I consider it a win.

It really isn't just you.

I cut out caffeine a few years back and it worked so much for my anger issues.

I can confirm that menopausal rage is a thing.

Yes - HRT works wonders for my rage.

I had this last year but it was a low mood related anger/irritability rather than hormonal. I hadn’t realised I was depressed as completely functional with it but once I addressed my lack of joy and my mood lifted the irritability improved.

Yes, I had it. Getting absolutely furious about what, objectively, were trivial things. I think this is where the horrible "Karen" stereotype comes from.

HRT took it right down.