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BF really wants me to go, I'd quite like to...

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Dropcard · 17/04/2025 13:38

But for some reason it feels like a difficult decision.

BF is running a marathon 300 miles from home. He's a good runner and has done lots of marathons, as have I, so whilst it's never a small thing, it's not huge for us.

He'd planned to go with 3 friends, drive up together, have a couple of evenings out on the town (dry the night before, not so much the night after!) and I was perfectly happy to wish him luck for the race and for him to go and have a good weekend.

A few things have changed. One friend is no longer going, so there's a spare bed. BF's training hasn't gone well, he's worried in a way I haven't seen him before. He wants me to go so we can have some quality time together (he thinks the friends will do their own thing and we can do ours).

He's very very supportive of my running, and although he's not said it, this is the first time he's really wanted my support, and I'd like to be there for him if needed.

However, I'm not sure I'd be thrilled if I were the friends. They've already lost one of their number and now another is about to abandon them. I would be support crew for all of them though!

I do have something I've agreed to do that weekend, that I'm really not looking forward to, so it's possible I'm looking for a get out. That would involve me letting down a friend, which is something I'm usually very particular about.

I really love this man and my instinct is to jump at the chance to spend a weekend with him and support him, but I suspect the reality will be less romantic 😆

Wwyd?

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FetchezLaVache · 17/04/2025 13:44

What's the thing you've agreed to do with your friend and would that leave him/her up shit creek?

tryingtobesogood · 17/04/2025 13:46

I don’t think it would be a very romantic weekend, and it seems unfair on the other friends to now be going away with a couple.

maybe book another weekend away and do the thing you committed to instead.

Dropcard · 17/04/2025 13:52

FetchezLaVache · 17/04/2025 13:44

What's the thing you've agreed to do with your friend and would that leave him/her up shit creek?

It's not that terrible.

I said I'd go with a friend to see his friend's band, but he is going with others. He also invited a mutual friend of ours who only agreed to go because I was going (first friend can be a but much) but he's also taking his wife. So, I did agree to go, but no one's left "up shit creek".

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FetchezLaVache · 17/04/2025 14:00

Dropcard · 17/04/2025 13:52

It's not that terrible.

I said I'd go with a friend to see his friend's band, but he is going with others. He also invited a mutual friend of ours who only agreed to go because I was going (first friend can be a but much) but he's also taking his wife. So, I did agree to go, but no one's left "up shit creek".

Then I'd go with your BF, as long as you're sure his friends would be OK with it, because if nothing else it'd be nice to reciprocate his support.

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